HAVING SECOND THOUGHTS...

I WAS DOING FINE UP UNTIL I WENT TO THE "OH" MEMORIAL..THAT REALLY SHOOK ME UP AND HAS MY ANXIETY GOINGI DON'T KNOW ANYMORE, IM AFRAID WHAT WILL HAPPEN AFTERWARDS, BUT AT THE SAME TIME AFRAID OF WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF I DON'T GET THE PROCEDURE, MY HUSBAND IS LIKE, WHY DID U GO TO THAT SITE, NOW U DONE SET UR SELF UP...ANY SUGESTIONS??

I think we all visit that page.  But what I did was pray and trust that God would see me thru the surgury and the post surgucal "what did I do to myself "days. A friend of my mothers gave me a bracelet  just before  surgury. If is silver with pink and clear beads and three words on  silver plated charms . Believe, Strength, and Courage.  I wish I could give one to everyone that is preop.  Its hard I know.  But keep faith and keep coming here to the boards and reading the " WOW" moments;before you know it your surgury will be over and youwill have Wow moments of your own to post. God Bless Darla

I can understand why that would make you feel that way. I actually did the same thing before surgery. I wanted to face the fact that i may be one of those people. then i looked at my life as it was and knew that the chances of me dying a slow and painful death from my obesity were almost 100% while dying from the surgery were less than 1% so i figured that i would take the chance and hope for the best. From your pic, you look pretty young, so you have that on your side. I would do this especially if you have lots of other problems that this surgery would help. If it's just cuz you don't like being fat, i wouldn't do it. do it to save your life.

Patrina: First of all, let me say that what you are feeling is normal.  It is part of this journey.  Think about whenever you've had to do something you've never done before.  Did you get the jitters?  Of course you did.  It's the fear of the unknown.  Going to the memorial page is part of this journey.  We know that there are risks, but, with FAITH and STRENGTH, we can over-come those risks. You and I share the same surgeon.  I have all the faith in the world in him and his skills.  He and I have hit some really big bumps in this journey of ours and I have had plenty of doubts.  But, with my faith in both God and the good doctor, I know that things will go well. Keep posting here on the boards.  There are a lot of wise and good people here to help you thru this. Best of luck! Deb

THANK U GUYS SO MUCH FOR UR SUPPORT...IM OVER HERE POURING TEARS...I REALLY NEEDED THAT "GOD" BLESS

Yes, I echo the sentiments of everyone so far.  Fear is a common emotion that I think most all of us have gone through.  I was fine until the night before surgery, then I had a breakdown of sorts.  Couldn't stop crying and questioning my decision, until my husband held me and asked me to pray with him.  We prayed for strength, courage, for the confidence and talent in my surgeons hands, and for his love to guide me through surgery.  After that, I was at peace.  (((Big Hugs)))

FIRST I WOULD LIKE TO SAY THANKS FOR THE ENCOURAGEMENT, THE MORE I STAY ON THESE FORUMS THE BETTER I FEEL, ALSO I SEE THAT U GO TO GBMC, THATS WHERE I USE TO GO, DR. DAVID VON RUEDEN, THAT WAS UR DOCTORS OLD PARTNER, BUT HE LEFT AND WENT SOME WHERE ELSE, BUT I WASN'T FEELING HIM, SO THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON, IM GLAD TO SEE UR DOIN WELL, AND KEEP ME IN PRAYER!  I SEE WE FROM THE SAME HOMETOWN, EXCEPT IM FROM FORESTVILLE

You know something? I did the very same thing and I was petrified for a while.  I even remember posting about it and I was so glad that i got a huge response in support.    The one thing we have to realize is that there are risks involved for any type surgery. What I did was put my faith in God's hands and left it all to him.   I am so glad that I did go through and had my surgery.  it has been a blessing and I if I had to do it again I would not even hesitate. Take care and God Bless follow your heart. Hugs,

THANKS CIRA... MY HUSBAND TOLD ME SAME THING... SO THATS WHAT IM DOING, BECUZ I HAVE NO CONTROL ANYWAY

I think everyone who has responded did a great job of expressing my feelings as well. I wasn't all that nervous, and as surgery got closer, I actually got more excited than nervous. I did take a few days, in short doses, to read the memorial pages. That wasn't easy, and I cried more than I had in a long time. I realized something while reading them, and that is the reason for the majority of the deaths. The reason was more due to the complications of super morbid obesity, rather than complications from surgery. I had a lot of faith in my surgeon. I got a great feeling from both Dr. Moeinolmolki and Dr. Von Rueden at my information session. I looked at their mortaility rate, which is far lower than the 1% national average. I thought about the risks I was taking by remaining obese, and that has a much higher averarage mortality rate than 1%. Finally, I looked both here and to the GBMC support group. I looked around, and I spoke to a lot of people. I only spoke with one person out of dozens *****gretted having the surgery (she was fairly recently post-op). Nice to have you here on the MD board. I hope you'll post often, and feel at home and comfortable. It's such a great group of supportive friends.