Dating

Hey there Karen, Right now you are in an awkard stage of having surgery you are losing weight you see a difference but not a major difference.  Your confidence will build up again after you see it for yourself.  What I do suggest you do is get help like counseling, through your surgeon's office or your insurance carrier.  That is what I did like 2 months after having my sugery. It helped so much to go through those feelings with someone who you knew was not judging you.  She also taught me how to accept a compliment I had major issues with accepting a compliment from snyone even from my husband.  It is so helpful to go to that weekly or every other week counseling. Give it a try girl you will not regret it. if you need to talk I am here for you. Hugs, Cira 

Hey Jen - Single, here, too and hating it most of the time.  However, I've explored Internet dating, and while I don't have time to tell you all of the stories, scroll back a couple of pages and read my post on Internet Dating.  If nothing else, it'll give you hope that you're alone!!! Don't worry, I've got everyone on the Maryland Board looking for a decent single guy for me and Darla, so we'll add you to the list!! Your sister in singledom (or is that DUMB?), Tia

If there is a list, add me to it...LOL Thanks all for the posts.  They are very encouraging and funny, I just had no idea how bad it was out there....I have explored the internet and I have some fun stories there, but I kinda wonder how else do we meet people.  Thanks for being so GREAT people! Jen

Thanks for all of these posts.  I have thought about going back to counseling and I'm getting there.   I used to be part of a Singles/Divorced support group and actually last night I finally got the courage up to go back to a meeting.  It was sooo nice.  They all applauded when I walked in.  I was gone for over a year.  They are pretty social - happy hours, parties, etc.  I just need to get the strength up to show up at the activities and feel comfortable.  I can't meet anybody if I stay at home - I know that.  One thing they do stress in this group is to feel good about yourself, be independent and be happy with yourself.