Dating

I know I will tell have to tell them eventually. I have mentioned to most that I've lost a lot of weight and work hard at keeping it off and most are impressed with that. Meeting good guys??? HAHA I think you just have to put yourself out there and look at every place as an oppurtunity. I agree with what you said about losing the weight and meeting the guys because I know I'm much much more confident now and that helps with meeting people. I've meet people at clubs, bars, work but the person I'm seeing now I actually met online and we met about a little over a year ago but started talking seriously back in September and we finally met in November, it was magic from the beginning but I'm still catious. Good luck to you as well!!

Hi Jen, I was morbidly obese most of my life and never dated much.  One year ago (and 18 mos after having LAP RNY), I met a wonderful guy who treats me like a queen.  I too always thought that it was about the weight.  I had some close to me tell me it wasn't the weight but the thing on my shoulders.  After losing weight, I found I was more confident/brave when it came to "putting myself out there".   Don't lose hope.  I chose to focus on other good things in my life (like an upcoming LBL that I had last spring and other things) and that's when I met my prince charming :-) HTH

This thread makes me wish I was single!!

Yeah, we wish you were single, too!!! Tia

LOL Tia you are soooooooooooooo bad!

Cira - Honey, you've been married for so long that you must've forgotten that in the single world - bad is GOOD!!!!!!!!!! Tia

LOL too funny! hugs,

Single too.  Dating - no.  I am only a little over 3 months since surgery and I am still hiding out in my house.  Afraid - yep.  I was so much more social fatter.  Does that make sense?  I guess I knew they wouldn't be interested in me so I didn't care.  Now I'm pretty scared.  What's a woman to do?

 Girl, I hear ya, I was that way too...it doesn't get easier, let me tell you.  I know when you are overweight, your kinda protected from that attention to a point, and when you lose the weight and you get the attention 1. its weird. 2. You wonder if it is sincere 3. You don't know how to deal with it and project yourself as confident.  But you can't hide away!!!!!!  That is for sure 

Hi Jen, Read the reply I just posted to Karen. I just wanted you to know that there is a way to overcome those fears.    I am here for you if need to talk. Hugs,