Name Calling

Good Morning Everyone, Just wanted to share an experience I had- I have AOL, which in itself is evil and I was really bored last night so I jumped into a chatroom, because it can be pretty amusing.  Anyway, this guy IM's me and we start talking, finance movies etc.  At anyrate he wanted to meet me at 930pm last night only talke to him for like an hour, anyway, I said no, because in a joking way I said you could be a serial ax murderer for all i know. there.  Anyway, he then goes into this tirad about how I should trust people and go to counseling for my "trust" issues and so on.  So I closed AOL out because who needs to read that crap.  So this morning I am checking email and he sent a message saying I look like a "barnyard hog."  Now, in all honesty, no one has called me a name to my face since High School in regards to weight, and since surgery I have lost 120lbs and only have 30lbs to go to reach goal of 148-150.  The picture he saw was me at 180.  Anyway my point is telling this is, what I can't believe about me is that it has made me sad.  I thought I was over this because being a size 12, is a good thing.  I just can't believe what this guy said has had an effect. But I guess I am really naive,  I  had no idea at the age of 30 people still name call.   Jen

Awww ((((Jen)))). Lots of times when people don't have a logical response to strengthen or defend their point of view they revert back to the childishness of name calling to make themselves feel better. Apparently that is what happened. You could have looked like Ms. America and this guy would have found something personally derogatory to say to you. He knew you wouldn't get his comment till way later and he probably was congratulating himself for his brilliant repartee. He is a JERK soforgetabouthim and his comments. You are a size 12!!!! OMG I am so jealous you must be looking incredible.

Thanks Jo and Mo! He is deleted and blocked I was tempted to delete the screen name too, but why? I didn;t say or doi anything to him and he was far from perfect, but why sink to that level and email him back with derrogatory remarks. Jo, I know you will get to that size 12.  My goal is an 6-8, just want to know what it is like to be in the single digits...lol.  but in all honesty, if I did not lose anymore weight, I would be good with that.  I am healthier and happier then I have been in a long time, just need to find the guy to complete the picture... Have a wonderful day everyone and thanks always for the support :)

HI Jen, Sorry you had to have that experience.   I spend time chatting with friends on Yahoo and have met many of them in person at NASCAR races, etc, but there are others that I have no interest in meeting or I definitely would NOT meet one on one.   You are perfectly right to be hesitant to meet someone in person that you just chatted with for a brief time the same night. The best thing to do is delete the email .. put his address on block .. and get on with it.  He sounds like an ignorant SOB who isn't worth your time anyway.   Don't let his behavior influence your feelings of worth in yourself. Trust your instincts in people .. if you had felt right about him .. you might have gone to meet him last night but you have the right to be choosy when it comes to friends. Hugs, Mo

Hi Jen, Jo & Mo has said some great things so I second what they said.  Remember this person you don't even know so forget about him and know that you are special and je is beneath you! Have a wonderful new Year! Hugs,

Sounds like he just acted childish from being rejected.. (( HUGS ))

Jen I am going to tell you what I tell Gabriella who is 6 years old.  God don't like ugly!  That guy must be feeling bad about him self to even call someone a name.  I would have told him well there is my answer about coming to meet you @sshole!  Chin up and be strong!  There is ugly people out there and we usually do not know it till they open there mouths! Hugs Kristen

Jen, I'm sorry this happened.  I met my husband on AOL, so they're not all bad.  But there are some real nutjobs out there.  So, you are SMART to be wary.  Wariness is appropriate here, not a sign of trust issues.  Even when the husband and I met, BTW, I was wary until I knew him.  He didn't get my address.  We met at neutral sites and left in our own cars.  It wasn't until the 3rd date, when he set up a double-date with his folks, that I knew for sure that I could trust him.  A man who would say that isn't worth a second thought.  Many years ago, when I was twenty-something, I ran into one of "those" during a previous weight loss effort.  I'd reached a size 10 and started dating through a dating service.  Well ... Mr. Yuck came by to pick me up for an afternoon at the museums in D.C.  We get almost to the Smithsonian, then he turns the car (which was a bright red Porsche) around and drops me at the curb at my apartment.  I asked him what was wrong, and he said, "I realized that I could never date someone as fat as you."  WTH??  I was CUTE and SLIM and wearing size 10 Gloria Vanderbilt jeans (remember those?) when he said that to me. Some people are just the horse's patootie, if you know what I mean! Edie

Aw Edie that was so rude!!!!  I am sorry, but you are right there are a lot of jerks out there!

Aren't you glad you said NO! I used to chat alot using various foums. I learned quickly that words can hurt. You know you aren't nothing like what this jerk wrote to you. Ignore it, delete, even report him to AOL. He violated the TOS. Make him pay. Happy New Year to a Newer and Sexier Person!!!