In need of opinion not about wls

I have a question not related to wls.  Sorry to get off topic here, but I am looking for anyones opinion that may have gone through or are currently going through this.   I have been married since 04 and been together since 00.  He got divorced from wife #1 in 02 (separated since 99).  Now his x-wife (8 years later) is still trying to split us up.  They have one child together that is now 10, and I have been in his life since he was 3.  His x-wife is always running to court filing false accusations against either of us and now is still trying to cause problems.  I know there is nothing to legally stop her, but how do you keep your marriage healthy after someone is consistantly trying to rip it apart??  We have gone to counseling over this and it has helped, but when is enough; enough?  She is remarried and has another baby...she should have moved on by now, right? 

I really wish there was some magical wand that could be waived to end this stress for you. I'm sure you know that there isn't. Some people are only content to make others miserable. My ex-husband was that way. I think it may be especially difficult for you as your are the second wife and are probably viewed as the other woman to her. I used to react with anger and I relaized that it was only making my life miserable. I completely changed the manner in which I interacted with my ex and his family. I honey coated my dealings with them. I was so sweet that they couldn't be nasty.  It will be hard work for you and your spouse, but it sounds like you have already been working hard. I hope you can find a way to lessen the stressors in your relationship. Maybe counseling is in order once again.  Hugs,

Dan I would take a back sit for awhile, it sounds like you have done all that you can.  I would always put the children at best and adults are adults. Hugs Kristen

I agree with Aime.  Kill her with kindness, as my Sunday School teacher in 4th grade used to say.  Be above the fray.  Also, be careful not to let the child be a pawn in this situation or turn him against his mother.  Eventually, your step-son will figure things out. about his mom.  She sounds like a troubled person.