Yeahhhh ME.......Approved.... Reposted from RNY

I was in such awe I forgot to post this on my home board.

I recently completed my 6 month supervised diet and all other requirements to send to the insurance company for authorization. I have heard my insurance is not the easiest to deal with, that being said........Yippee.....My docotors office called this morning and said " Your approved " It took 4 days from the date the papers went through the fax. Yeahhh ME!! I called my DH right away to tell him the good news, he was happy for me and surprised It happened so quickly. I'm going to call tomorrow to schedule a date ( we need to figure out what we are going to do w/ the kiddos)  As I was writing this post my DH called back, I could tell.... he was crying  he expressed concern, he's extremly worried that something may happen to me during/after the surgery. He said " I will never be able to find a wife & mother as wonderful as you are". I almost broke down.....I reassured him everything would be fine and It's in God's hands. I've explained to him early on that there is a risk but w/ any surgery there is a slight risk. I also told him being obese is a greater risk in itself and he agreed surgery would improve my life, our life. Anyone have any other words of wisdom or comforting words I could share with him? Thanks for listening, Christina

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS on your approval!!  You worked very hard to get it !!! I think your husband does realize that this is best for you and will improve all of your lives but he may need continued reassurance from you and maybe he might choose to come on the message board and read some other's stories and post some of his own fears and ask questions. My thoughts are with you! Kendra

I asked my husband what thoughts he had that kept him stable during my surgery and the time before hand. He said he reminded himself that the odds were way in my favor. I had no comorbidities except for very mild sleep apnea. He also said he had met my surgeon and had complete faith in him that he would do an excellent job on the surgery.  And weighing 367 pounds we were both sure that I was not going to have a long life without weight loss surgery. Hugs to both of you. Edited to add: also one thing my surgeon said that really made us feel better was that not everyone who gets a blood clot dies, not everyone who gets a leak dies. So often we think that if we get a complication it is an immediate death sentence and it is not.

Congratulations my So. Maryland neighbor on soon becoming a loser!  My husband was worried also but we new from all of our research that I had more of a chance getting killed in a car accident going to work than from the surgery and that also I was going to die at a very young age without it.  Also we talked about it constantly so that he was very informed about all aspects of the surgery and the future.  Again congratulations!!! Stephanie

That's good news! I hope your dh will ease his fears and see that you new life will soon start and how much better it willbe for both of you.

Christina, Congratulations on your approval! I can understand your DH's concern regarding the risks involved with surgery.  You are absolutely right that the risks associated with morbid obesity are much greater.  I had a family member make a comment to me one time (after I had lost around 100lbs and was much happier with myself) that surgery was pretty drastic.  My reply to him was that maintaining a weight that classified me as being morbidly obese was even more drastic and was like a slow death.  He understood what I was saying.  I don't mean to make it sound like he wasn't supportive. My life has changed so much since I've lost this weight.  It's wonderful!  It's great to be able to go into a store buy clothing in the regular misses sizes.  It's great to be able to go to a concert/oriole game (yes, I still admit to going to them..hehe), ravens game, anyplace with that "structured seating" and be able to fit into the seat with room to spare!  It's great to have a flat stomach for the first time I can ever remember (after an LBL in May of this year).  I am so much more happier and content with myself since losing this weight.  I've gone from taking a few medications for BP and Diabetes to taking no medications (except for allergy meds).  I think that me being happier and more contented with myself has helped in my relationships with those I am close to.  I am happier so I relate to them so much better and I'm much more open.  Prior to WLS I felt like I jus****ned to always hide in a hole.  I felt like something was missing from my life.  Sure, I still have to deal with traffic on my way to work in the morning and I still have bad hair days, but life is great!  I mention bad hair days.  I just took the hairloss that I knew was going to happen after the surgery and went with it.  Within 12-14 months after surgery, my hair was back to what it had been prior to surgery.  My Dr's office said that it's normal between 3-6 months.  I mention the hairloss because that seems to be the biggest issue that most folks ask about pre-surgery.  Another thing is to have confidence in your surgeon and the facility where you are having the surgery.  Another thing to "tip the odds in your favor" is to be a compliant patient.  Do what the Dr/Dr's Office Staff tell you to do.  Do everything in your power to make this surgery a success and make your tool work for you.   I don't mean to sound like I"m preaching....I know you've done your homework regarding surgery and I know I don't need to convince you, but I just thought I would offer up some "positives" to give to your husband.   Best Wishes!

Yayyyyyyyyyyyyy!   That is wonderful. Congratulations. So did you get a date yet?    Wishing you all the best.

CONGRATS!  Just remember why you wanted to do it in the first place.

So I called this morning and scheduled a tenative date of Oct. 2nd. That is if I can get all the pre op testing completed by then. I called my PCP today and rattled off a list of test I needed ( upper GI, abdominal scan, blood work, physical ) I think that's it......the receptionist said she didn't know whether or not they could do it before that date. Hopefully I will be getting a call back tomorrow or Monday with the answer.  It's been a long road and I've waited this long.......I'm sure I can wait a couple more weeks If it's not possible. I'm not a pushy type person :~) Thanks for all your responses and well wishes !!!! Hugs ~ Christina