Repost from main board/ Family AARRGGGHHH

Post Date: 8/1/07 9:08 am I Love my mother to death don't get me wrong but I just don't don't know what to do. She watches everything I eat/drink like a hawk.  I had an egg for breakfast - took about 20 minutes to eat that.  Amout 10 minutes later I ate a very small strawberry -  she had a fit because I did not puree it.  A strawberry is so soft that I could easily chew it without a problem.  I guess the problem is she thinks I am "sabotaging" the surgury.  I am unable to eat much yet ( yesterday I felt i had a rock in my stomach all day)  but am getting in the 60 grams of protein I should each day mostly with the nu whey protein bullet. I left for work and she was in tears:  swearing that I was not going to lose any weight and this whole process was for nothing.  I know she loves me and everything but I cann't stand being treated like a child.  It's a no win situation I guess.

Hi Darla,

Please tell your mom I am available for adoption. I have all my papers AND I'm completely housebroken now. I hope that made you smile. I'm kinda soft on moms because I lost mine long ago. They are the best at loving us until we want to kill them, simple huh?  I'd advise remaining calm no matter what, your body will tell you when things are right and scream at you when they are not. Share your progress as a triumph with her as opposed to throwing it in her face. She'll come around Mark

Hi Darla, You are not even a month post op and you have lost 34 pounds!   That is awesome.   You mom needs to realize that you are right on track for you ... if I had lost 34 pounds in a month my doctor would have strangled me .. he told me to expect an average of about 15 pounds/month.   At 8 weeks post op I think I was about 35 pounds. It's probably hard because it looks like you and your mom live together, but if you allow her to berate you rather than support how far you have already come that is going to be the sabotage.

Best wishes as your WLS journey continues.

Hugs, Mo

I never pureed any foods. The idea was someting I just couldn't do. I ate soups the approved liquids from the full liquid diet. Maybe you can get her to feel more secure about things by having her work out with you. Come one Mom help me exercize! My mother was completely against my sugery. She now sees how much I have lost and how much better I am feeling. Give her time.  Best of luck.

Hang in there.  Try and remember that your Mom is doing her best to "support" you and "cheer" you on.  Right.  That said, unfortunately, even the best intentioned Moms can be a royal pain, and they can sabotage your progress.  That said, perhaps the following suggestions might work: -  Give her a big hug.  Tell her you know she means well but that you need to be responsible for your food decisions.  You appreciate her suggestions, but that you are following the advice of the nutritionist to the letter. - Give her a list of the foods that you can/should be eating at this stage, and get her to help you pack your lunch each day.  Maybe she'll even do it for you (one less job to do in the morning!) - Invite her to go with you to the health food store for purchasing protein supplements and vitamins.   - Ask her to help you sort thru your old clothes to decide where to donate or sell your old stuff.   - Ask her for advice on stuff like how many pairs/colors of slacks you need to get thru the next size, etc.  Non-food stuff. -  Like previously suggested, get her to exercise with you, even if its just a walk around the block, or, on very hot days, a walk around the air conditioned shopping mall. The idea is to get her involved positively in your journey.  If she's involved, she might not feel excluded from your success.  But you do need to get her off of the sabotage gig or else ignore her, and that won't do well for your long term relationship.