Oh No Moment

My five year old son wa trying to do a hand stand yesterday, but did not have any luck.  He asked me if I could do one and I said no.  Well, his response to that was "Oh yeah, I forgot, you're fat".  Well, I couldn't speak, only cry.  When I started crying, he kept saying he was sorry.  I told him that was not a nice thing to say, and he shouldn't call anyone fat.  We don't use that word (for obvious reasons) so the only place he could have gotten it was from his friends at school.  I didn't have the courage to ask where he got that from for fear that he would say his friends said his mommy was fat.  I've been made fun of alot in my life because of my weight, but to hear that from my child just breaks my heart. I know now more than ever that WLS is the right decision for me.  I won't have my son growing up as the kid with the "fat mom".  I was teased alot because of my weight, I won't have him teased because of it too.

Sandi, I am so sorry that you were crushed by that remark. He is only 5 years old and doesn't understand what all that means. I have gotten remarks from my grandchildren too. They have said things before that I know was not of their own thinking. It does hurt but I have also told my girls that it is not nice to tell someone they are fat. I told them that people come in all shapes, sizes and colors. That seemed to sink in a little bit. Love...Gail p.s.  I am in York, PA a lot. I love it there!

Thanks Gail, I know that he doesn't understand or is not trying to be mean.  It just breaks my heart that he may be hearing this from his friends and may soon become the butt of jokes.  But I am doing somethign to keep that from happening...instead of Memphis being the kid with the "fat mom" he'll be the kid with the "HOT mom".  LOL I see you are going to Dr Von Reuden.  I just went to my information session there last Wednesday.  Both him and Dr Moen seem great.  How do you like him?

Oh sweetie, Trust me I know exactly how you feel.  My daughter is also 5 and she can be quite abrupt with her fat comeents to me.  I know she doesn't mean any harm because she is only 5 and when a child is at the age well they are very honest.  Just know that this comment to you is a push to make you continue to go forward with your weight loss journey.   I can totally relate with you girl.  Things will be different for you soon! Big hugs to you

God Bless your heart, i'm sorry for your pain, I know he wishes he could take that back, how old is he?

He is five Malika. Thanks everyone, I know that he meant no harm by it, but when one so close states the truth it comes with a bitter sting.  I also know he will be one of my biggest supporters, as he is already my conscience...telling me that I haven't walked and I need to do my walking. LOL