To tell or not to tell that is the question?

The only peoples I have discussed WLS with are my doc and husband......guess I have to include all who are reading this!  In my lifetime I have lost a ton and gained that ton back with interest.  I've made the decision that this is the path I need to follow now.......don't need to hear negative nellies....I've dealt with them in the past.  Perhaps once I am actually on my way and not just waiting for the call I will feel differently?   What do/did you all decide?

The choice is yours.i have chosen not to tell people.there are a few people i have told but for the most part i have not told everyone.i live in a small town so i wanted to keep quiet.saying that i am now 2.5 yrs out and a lot of people suspect and when they ask i tell them .i have changed my eating habits and am going to the gym.these statements are true.ii just leave out that i had surgery.

sondra

I have no shame in what I did, but I only told close friends and family after I got my surgery date.  Then I told key people at work whom I could trust.  I had my surgery last November and just this month I have started telling anyone who asks how I lost the weight.  I'm more confident in myself now so that's part of it I think.  So now if I hear any negative comments, it doesn't bother me because I know that I have worked hard to get where I am.  Surgery was only a tool to help me get where I am.  I still have to count calories, watch what I eat, and exercise regularly to get the results.  Now people are telling me to stop.  I can't yet, I'm still overweight but only by 12 pounds.  That will put me in the high bracket of "normal" bmi.  I have never been normal in my life!  I can't wait!

I made the decision based on me and told those I wanted to tell and made sure I expressed that decision when I did discuss it. I also reminded people I did not make this decision lightly and they do not have to agree with me just support my decision if they truly loved me. As this decision does not really effect anyone who does not live with me.

I told everyone.  I needed help and wasn't afraid to admit it.  I had health issues that needed attention.  Most of my health problems that I had are better now.  Sleep apnea and borderline diabetic issues are now almost gone.  (also had high cholesterol and was on meds for that : now gone)  That scared me, because of heart disease is a major problem in my family.  I have lost over 130 Lbs.  I am still big, I am only 5 foot 1 and I still weigh over 200.  So I still have a long way to go.  I don't like asking people to keep secrets and just felt better being honest about it.  I haven't had any negative comments yet (except one from a relative that I never communicate with anyway) I don't care what that person thinks anyway.  LOL   I did what was right for me.  YOU DO WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU.  Some people live around people that are negative and it may just be easier to keep it a secret.  Good luck on your journey.  Hope you come to the meet and greet today.  Barb

I kept my surgery secret from everyone.  Only my parents & 3 friends knew.  And it has stayed that way.  When people ask me I show them my work out sheets and explain portion control.  Its nobody's business but your own.  You don't owe anyone any answers.  Do what you feel is best for you.

I had my surgery 4 months ago and chose to tell very few except some family at the beginning. I had made up my mind and that is what mattered. Now that I am on my journey if people ask, I say I have chosen to do something positive. Very few ask but many comment about how different I now look and I still have quite a ways to go. My decision! My journey!

THE ONLY PERSON WHO KNOWS I HAD THIS SURGERY  IS MY HUSBAND AND DOC AS WELL. I KNOW WHAT THE FAMILY WILL SAY, YOUR TAKING THE EASY WAY OUT, IF YOU JUST DIET AND EXCERCISE  YOU WONT NEED TO HAVE THE SURGERY .  FEEL FREE TO TO "TALK" TO ME. WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO NOW   IS  PRETEND TO BE DIETING THATS WHAT I DID . I TOLD PEOPLE I WAS TRYING TO DIET AND I WAS STOPPING ALL SUGAR AND ANY THING WHITE LIKE RICE BREAD OR PASTA . MY FAMILY JUST FIGURED OUT  I WAS "SERIOUS" THIS TIME.  WHEN I HAD THE SURGERY WE TOLD PEOPLE I HAD HERNIA SURGERY WHICH WASN'T A LIE AS MY DOC DID REPAIR 2 HERNIAS.   MY HUSBAND KNOWS WHEN I AM JUST PICKING AND HE JUST TAKES THE PLATE AWAY.  HE ALSO KNOWS HOW MUCH FOOD SHOULD BE ON MY PLATE THE ONLY PROBLEM IS MY HUSBANDS JOB IS SUCH THAT HE IS NOT HOME FROM 9;20 TO ABOUT 8:30 - MIDNIGHT,.   SO I AM ALONE FOR THE MOST PART EVERYDAY!!! WHICH MAKES STAYING ON THE "DIET" DIFFICULT I HAVE LOSS 80 POUNDS BUT I HAVE 50 MORE TO GO.   I AM SLACKING RIGHT NOW. I NEED TO GET BACK ON THE WAGON...     LET ME KNOW IF I CAN HELP. KATHY

 

Yeah, gotta love those who tell you just eat less and walk more etc.  SHEESH!  Somehow if you have weight issues you're viewed as "Lazy".  

so true...