so discouraged

So I've been obsessing over whether or not to go to mexico, and I was leaning heavily toward yes. So I've been researching and reading and thinking non-stop about this and had everything narrowed down to 3 surgeons/centers and started thinking about dates and looking at flight prices, etc...

Then my husband told me that we were declined by Medicard, which is the only way we would've been able to pay right now... I did not see that coming... We had claimed bankruptcy in the past, but have since rebuilt credit, gotten a mortgage, credit card and line of credit and have been using them all responsibly. But Medicard still wants a co-signer, which we don't have.

I'm SO disappointed... I really had made up my mind about Mexico and getting it done by this summer. I was getting really excited and really got my hopes up too soon i guess... I was also leaning strongly toward VSG, something they don't perform here...

I feel like I have such a long wait ahead of me... My Dr. was going to refer me in 2010, but then I got pregnant, and obviously that got put off.... then I was referred, denied, told to quit smoking, I quit, and now I still have to wait to even get referred again. The ball hasn't even *started* rolling yet, and who knows when it will!

I've put on 25 lbs since quitting smoking and going on Depo Provera birth control (bad choice!) . I am the heaviest I've ever been and feel terrible about myself. Not just body image, but physically. I can't sit for long periods of time without hurting when I get up and start moving. My knees hurt and I cant sit cross legged with my kids on the floor anymore. My 6 yr old asks me why I don't ever want to run or skip with her. My back has started aching ALL the time and I wake up in pain every morning... I've really felt this last 25 lbs I've gained, and feel so hopeless right now...

I just don't know where to start.

Thank you for reading... Sorry, just needed somewhere to release.

Saucy boss, I have been in your place. We declared bankruptcy about 5 years ago so I knew the only I could afford to go to Mexico was to save which is next to impossible when you live cheque to cheque. I have waited 2 years to get my orientation session, so it will happen. The girls here have been very supportive with me and I know alot of them will have lots of wisdom to give you as well.

They do perform the VSG here in Winnipeg. Have you considered Medicine Hat? I know a couple of people who have gone there and gotten surgery within a year or so by going on the cancellation list. Might be worth a try?

Please go back to your Dr and tell him about your pain, there are things you can do to help that while you make a decision on surgery. Start with little steps like drining more water and gradually make little changes.They do add up to some good changes.

Please keep in touch and pm me, I would be happy to talk with you! Maybe you can come to the next meet and greet and find some inspiration and support!

Karen

i have no advice, just support. i feel your pain - i've gained weight in the past several months and i just can't do normal activities a lot of the time. my back pain is the worst, every morning in particular.. it can be so discouraging.

hang in there. i hope you find a program that suits you.

Dr. Carl Nohr in Medicine hat,  does take Manitoba patients and he is covered by Manitoba Medical.  His BMI cut off is 55.  He only perfoms the RNY.  The Alberta weight wise program out of Edmonton also takes patients with 55 BMI and it is also covered by Manitoba Medical.  Your doctor just has to refer you to either program.  I had to go to Mexico because my BMI was at 65.  The DS is not covered anywhere by Manitoba medical.    ok LOL.  I don't know how my typing changed , I must have hit a wrong key or something trying to change to capitol letters.    anyone know how to change it back.   LOL    Barb