New to the forum - Questions about family acceptance

Thank you so much for the responses everyone. I feel that this is already a very supportive group of people.

I think my biggest problem is still that my husband is not onboard. He basically says that this "risky surgery" is just doing portion control for you. I just get more frustrated when I hear that because obviously if it was that easy I would be THIN!!

I really wish I was able to come out last night, but I was home with the kiddos. I'll be staying tuned to when the next one is.

Me again!  I was thinking about how I first told my husband when I first started thinking about this path. I have always been heavy and he says that he loves me as I am and he doesn't think my appearance is an issue.  I agree on the surface.  I am who I am and I am successful and happy as I am.  But I'm  not healthy.  I told him what my concerns were deep down with staying this way.  I already have high blood pressure, sleep apnea and reflux.  My family health history have many more risks including high cholesterol and diabetes.  Having the surgery for me is mostly about improving my health!  Getting smaller will be a pleasant side effect!  I hope this helps!  Cheers!

Hi Garry Girl - - - I got referred in April and accepted to the program in May -- am not awaiting news of when I can start appointments.

 

In terms of telling people - - well you tend to tell those you are close to and who you feel won't judge you.  And in my case I wanted to be sure to tell people who would support my decision.  I told my three kids, my mom and my best friend , and then finally told my husband that I wanted this surgery.  I was afraid of his reaction because we have never been able to have a discussion about how i feel about my weight because he just tells me I need to have more self-control - - he sees it as a motivation and will-power thing totally.  As we all know, there is so much more than that to it!  He did have a little bit of that reaction, but he also wanted assurance that it was a safe surgery.  And then he talked about a guy he knows who had VSL several years ago and is right back to his original size.  So then i got the lecture about how it wasn't going to help if wasn't prepared to work at it (back to the will-power and motivation thing you see).  Anyways, he IS now supportive of me going for the surgery but has asked (told? - oh another whole issue lol) me not to do the VSL surgery as it worries him that he has seen how unsuccessful it can be.

 

At least I know he is invested in what I do.  But the above reaction is why I told him last in my circle of people I felt I needed to talk to. 

 

Ultimately it has to be for YOU.  You are the one who will be going through the surgery (if you choose) or living with the weight and health issues that come with it, as well as the struggles to lose weight, guilt, etc. etc. that we have all experienced.  I will tell you, as someone narrowing in on the 50 number, that your risk of health issues get greater over the years.  It is easier to be overweight and healthy at 30 than overweight and healthy at 50.  The same amount of weight will have greater repercussions as time goes on.  And if your weight is like mine, it doesn't stay constant but steadily climbs.  I think you are wise to be considering the surgery at a young age as you will have many more years to enjoy a more active lifestyle.

Anxiously looking forward to being on the losers' bench . . . . .