Input on what my husband said...

 I am laying in this hospital bed with tube feeding running and the prospect of being here another couple of weeks-it has never even crossed my mind whether I'd do it again.  In a heartbeat, with the ulcers, strictures, scopes, dilatations and now this.  Just speed bumps.  The down side is that I have gained 17 pounds of fld which they assure me willcome right back off.  Have a great day all-kj

Wow!!  You must be a very strong person!  I hope the best for you...it is really encouraging to hear you say you would still do it in a heartbeat.

Can I ask what happened for you to be in the hospital with a feeding tube now?  Is this all WLS related?

Thanks for sharing!

 It is all wls related and in spite of how it may sound it hasnt been that bad.  I developed pain and nausea at about 11 weeks-I got an urgent scope and had a lge ulcer and stricture.  I was started on meds for the ulcer and my stricture dilated.  I felt good for about a week and then my symptoms started again.  I had a routine followup with dr vergis-he thought that I was restricturing or that it might be the ulcer.  I was scoped about 5 weeks later and I had a very small stricture but the ulcer was healing.  That was 2 1/2 weeks ago.  Last weekend I started fullout vomitting with dry heaves which progressed to being unable to eat or drink and I had horrible pain.  I called st b and asked for the bariatric surgeon on call-he had me directly admitted, there was no waiting in er, just registered and came up to the ward.  I had a ct which they reported as ok but he reviewed it and saw contrast in both my new stomach and remnant.  He says that the ulcer (about the size of a 50cent piece)had eroded thru my remnant stomach, not from the inside?, and down to my remnant stomach.  He says thT the placement of the 2 stomachs had prevented leakage into my peritoneum (we hope).  We will know more on tuesday when he does the leak test.  It was a 5 1/2 hour surgery with what he calls an "extravaganza of complications".  He doesnt know what caused it-I dont smoke or drink at all.  Hopefully I will be able to enjoy food next week.  I am getting excellent care here on 7AW.  I hope that wasnt too wordy but remember pain is never good.  kj

 Wow!!!  I hope you are ok...that's crazy!  It does scare me....but I guess not enough to stop me.  I did have complications that were apparently one in a million when I had my daughter so of course when something like that happens...you think it'll happen to you again.  I'm trying not to think like that and to stay positive!

Thanks for sharing...I wish you all the best and take care!!

Question: Is your husband overweight? I wonder if there's **some** sort of insecurity he has which would make him a little jealous about you losing the weight? That could certainly account for him saying what he did.

I am 2 months post-op VSG (down 36 lbs) and happy now that clothes are fitting much better; I don't look like as much of a blob. The first month was hard as it was 10 days clear liquids + 10 days full liquids + 10 days pureed foods. THAT was the part I wasn't really prepared for, just the liquids & mushies (I hate jello & broths), I was crawling the walls thinking I was going to die of hunger. But, now that I've been on solid food for a month, I don't really remember the first month. Kinda like giving birth? Once it's done you don't remember the "pain" as much. I did have complications with my lungs and shortness of breath after the surgery and am still healing from that. Other than that one complication, I have no regrets. There are still some almost anger issues - like what one member said abou****ching her man eat pizza and all the good food. I can still eat it and enjoy the taste, just so little of it that it is kinda hard sometimes. Sometimes it's awkward at social gatherings when everyone is stuffing their face and you're just sitting or standing there trying to stare at anything but the food. But really, I'd trade that for smaller, cute clothes, a healthy body, and a better body image. My hair is a *lot* thinner, that's sad as it's so dark and pretty obvious to me. Oh well.

Remember as much as you love your hubby, you have to do it for you. If he loves you, he'll come around and support you.

Best of luck!

Thanks so much Snow White!  We did have a good chat since and he says he's worried I'm going to feel worse after the surgery and always sick because of not getting enough nutrition in.  Anyways, he's more clear on it and does support it.  He is overweight and hopes to change some habits along with me so I feel better about that.  I guess time will tell!

Thanks again!