Input on what my husband said...

So I've been saying things to my husband like....how much I'll be eating, what I can't have (like sugar), what the dumping syndrome is, the hair loss involved, ect...and twice now he's said: "Why would you want to do this to yourself?".  I know he doesn't really understand, he thinks I should be doing this the more traditional way...of course that hasn't worked for me thus far...

Anyways, I'm still going ahead with it but I guess I wanted confirmation from those on the other side....

- If you could go back, would you do it again?
- Do you regret it?  Is it still worth it?
- Does the good stuff override all the hard times?

Any insight would help me be more comfortable and stay firm with what I believe would be an amazing start to a new healthy life.

Thanks so much!

 i havent had the surgery yet, i am this coming tuesday,,,but i heard similar things from my brother, first i think they ask questions because they care, second because they want to make sure youre sure about it and dont want any regrets.. after a couple comments from my brother i kind of had a freak out and explained myself and ever since then hes been on board and researching the surgery and asking me if i know things....

so i hope in your case your husband will come around and see it as something positive! :) goodluck with everything

tiff

I'm almost 3 months out and almost 60 lbs down and I have no regrets ( except allowing myself to get this way in the first place)

The feeling of being 60 lbs less, being able to do so much more, move so much easier  to move around and enjoy life again is amazing.  I do have some sad feelings at times - I miss food at times. I watched my man eat a giant salad at dinner tonight and I wished I could have it.  But what do they say ? nothing tastes as good as thin feels. I KNOW this is the tool that has saved me. I don't obsess about food like I used to .  It feels very freeing not to be ruled as much by it - or at least in  a different way, if that makes sense.

I think the only thing close to regret was when I was throwing up with no relief for hours and horribley constipated that I said " what did i do?" but it lasted for a very short amount of time. 

Thanks so much for that....it is a very big change and it is very scary, so it`s nice to hear that it will be ok and all worth it.  Maybe my husband is just worried that I will regret it or something.  I told him I just need him to support me and he said he would try...not sure what that will translate in but I'm sure we will figure it out.

The big thing for me is that my 7 yr old girl is already obsessed with her weight and I need to change my life to help lead her into a better one!!

 I know exactly what you're saying.  About a week before my surgery my husband said almost exactly the same thing to me and I know it was only out of love and concern for me.  He caught me a little off guard as I thought we were past that point already.  I had him come to the group orientation with me so he could ask his own questions and could hear first hand what it was all about.  I got a bit emotional and I think for the first time really poured out my feelings,  poor guy I don't think he expected what he got!  I surprised myself too by what came out when I didn't stop to think about what I was saying.  I told him I was terrified of being an overweight and immobile woman with serious health problems that will shorten my life and cheat me and us  of any real quality of life.  I have been through the whole gamut of diets and fitness programs, I have lost the same 30 pounds over and over again only to put them back on again plus a few more each time.  Which the medical industry says is harder on your body.  This was not a decision made without a lot of soul searching and research and it was not made out of despiration. I am finally at the place in my life  and in my journey along the obesity path where I have to make a decision to go on as I am and be miserable and unhealthy or take control and embrace the great opportunity before me.
I have not one tiny regret and I would have the surgery again in a heartbeat.  I feel great and am enjoying my weight loss and the reduced pain in my joints.  This has given me the courage to commit to healthy eating and lifestyle and the opportunity to form new good habits while I am not battling with outrageous hunger.  That's my story,  hope it's helpful.  

So helpful Alle!!!  Thanks so much....it really sums up what I've been feeling for the last 14-15 months waiting for my surgery.  I think I'm just freaking out cause it's coming so soon but I think it's normal to freak out!

Thanks so much again!

Yes to all of your questions (except for the regret part) :D
Do what you feel is right for yourself

 I think it's normal to have those freak out moments, I know I had them.  For me I found that once I started my pre op diet that those moments stopped as I focused on getting ready.   Michelle is right you have to do what is right for you.  I am so grateful for this program and for the chance I have to get healthy and to regain control of my life.  Good luck with your journey.  

I cannot even begin to tell you how I feel post op.  I am now below my goal weight.  I lost 141 lbs!!!!!!!  I run, ski, bike, dance like a demon for hours. My mood/depression has lifted.  My outlook on life has been transformed.  Best of all, I can now keep up with my little boy.  My regret is that I didn't have it 10 years ago.  Search deep within yourself and you will know what is right for you. 

Thanks Mrs.Jackatar!!  I do know this is what I want but needed to hear from others in the same situation.  Too many people around me don't understand and therefor we sometimes feel alone on how we feel!  That's why I came to you guys!!

I'm very excited and can't wait to get started on the losers bench!!