How can people be so cruel????

So, I am go get my hair cut and styled cause I am going to a social and I gotta say I am looking pretty hot. I am feeling so good, pretty confident.  I go to the social and have a blast with my friends.  Dance up a storm.  Good for the soul.
I am driving to our hotel room (cause I don't drink any more) and I come to a set of lights.  I am having a snack while I wait for the light to change.  The vehicle next to me is calling out so I look over.  There are 4 guys (maybe mid to late 20's) telling me to roll down my window.  So I am chewing away on my snack and the guy on the front passenger seat says "Whatcha doing?" I say going home, covering my mouth.  He then says, "You are so totally eating a whopper you f****** fat cow!" I was floored.  I cried all the way back to the hotel room.  My husband was up and he thought something bad had happened. He says don't worry about it those guys are morons. He tried to encourage me that I have made some amazing changes in my life and strangers wouldn't know that. He doesn't get it though. I know I have lost 80 lbs and I have done amazing things, but I have dealt with those reactions all my life and apparently still am!   I am absolutely devestated.  Yes, rationally I know that I have made huge changes in my life, I look good and I have come a long way.  But the cruelity of people makes me sad.  Really, that was someones son who said that to me.  I hope and pray that my child will chose not to say cruel things to people when he is around his friends.  This just confirms to me that society is very prejusticed and intolerant of people who do not look like barbie dolls.  So very sad.....

Sherry, so sorry to hear that this happened to you. People should think before they open their mouthes - I mean they know nothing about you.

I've learned through being fat and now having a special needs child that stranger's opinions mean nothing. What do they know about the challenges we've faced? Sometimes they are generally interested and caring but often they are being snoopy.

Don't let those guys bring you down, you should be very proud of how far you have come. They don't know you  and the challenges you have faced. Please know that all of us here are very proud of you and excited for the changes that have and will happen for you.

Take care of yourself,

Karen

First off 80 fricking pounds, WAY TO GO GIRl!

I understand the hurt, I had tears in my eyes as I read your post.
For years I have been avoiding people and social functions because of my weight, always feeling people were talking about me.
I was thinking about this today and how do you get back out there. No doubt there are cruel stupid people out there and as long as your not a correctional officer you will never see them again, lol

Your doing it your back out there, and there is no way these guys will stop you.
Keep up the great work
Shan

To put it bluntly **** 'em!! I hate ppl like this. I have had to put up with **** like that all my life. Too bad we weren't kids anymore and couldn't be as immature as them by punching them out.

I feel for you and hope that it doesn't EVER happen to you again.

OMG I get so mad  when reading this post.  I am not sure how some people where brought up to act like this. 

I so believe in Karma and here is why.  When I was a teen I was tormented by a girl in school.  At the time i was like 140 or 150 pounds and she made me feel like 250.  I ran into her a few years ago.  She was talking to me like I was an old friend.  She obviously had no idea on the impact she made on my life!  Her kid ran over to her and boy her kid was way over weight.  Once the kid walked away, okay this part I am not proud of, I said "wow your kid is fat"  that is karma for you!  She turned red and walked away.

I think you should always be careful of what you do because it does come back to you.  She now spends her time comforting her own kid for the types of behaviors that she herself did.

All I can say is keep your chin up.  You know what changes you have made and really do you care what some punk has to say!  You know you are hot and really you are just getting hotter everyday!!!!

 WOW what F******king jerks i agree with the others i was sad and angry  at the same time reading this, I wondering what there parents would say would they be caring parents and correct them and be embarressed if they heard there children doing that or would they be the people that would do the same thing and not care?  Im glad you felt great for yourself and had a great night . Keep up the fight i think we will always feel we have to fight for our selves even when people dont know us and what we have gone through just like you say we dont look like barbie dolls.  I wonder did they look like ken probaly not congrats on your 80lbs gone and more to come. In this day and age we have to constantly tell our children to respect oldr people and be nice to everyone because it will all come back around.  From only meeting you twice you are very funny and beautiful inside and out .Hopefully this canada weekend is better

You're beautiful and they're ********!!     Keep your chin up and as hard as it is, don't let what they said get you down.    

I feel so badly for you and I know exactly what you're going through. Even if you hear 99 positive things from people around you and one negative comment, it's that ONE thing that eats away at us and erodes our soul.
Don't let those guys win...their goal was to hurt and their goal was to devastate you. As hard as it is, don't let them achieve their pathetic goal.
Just remember that they are ignorant, and that those kind of people do not go very far in life. You are and always will be full of CLASS...that's something nobody can take from you...and that's something you have and they don't. You are far better than they are and one day, they will realize this as well.
They DO NOT speak truth...I believe that once in awhile, people come along in our life to challenge us and speak lies in order to distort our thinking about ourselves.... STAY STRONG! These are "people of the lie" and you need to renounce them and their comments out of your head. Don't let their words fester.
Thanks for sharing and I hope you continue to be proud and feel beautiful!

Wow Sherry - how friggin awful. If this were a small town all of us would form a posse and track those guys down. First, we would give them a piece of our minds and then we would force them to sit down in front of their mothers and grandmothers and force them to repeat what they said to us.

Please don't take what those a-holes said to heart. I have had similar experiences in my life which made me feel like dirt. What you have accomplished is amazing, and I hope that most days you swell with pride at what you have done!

So very sad, you do not deserve that from anyone.  You have come along way in this journey and there is so much to learn along the way.

I probably would have thrown my Fu*king WOPPER out the window right at his foul mouth!!  Then a COP would have pulled me over for littering!!

Chin up girl more positive comments will come your way. Congrats on the poundage lost, you must look amazing.

Michelle