who and what have you told about surgery

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I find that as time goes by, I don't care who knows I had WLS. I did this for myself and no one else. I did care in the beginning, I didn't want anyone to know but it was a pretty big sercret for me as I was way too excited that I was FINALLY getting it done. People are going to judge no matter what I do, at least this time they can wag their tongues about something that I did that was good for my health, and whether they like my decision or not they can't take away how wonderful I feel about it.

For me, I think I don't want too many people to know because of the pressure to succeed.  Obviously any "hairbrained" diet schemes I have done before has never had long lasting result and this one is about as drastic and permanent as it gets (let's face it, there is a risk of death - a VERY VERY small one - and you don't have that with Jenny C or WW. lol    The stakes are higher with this procedure, so naturally the pressure to succeed is as well.   I also think people will be watching you for results - like a pot of water working up to a boil.

I think all that relaxes when you start losing significant amounts and can breath easier.  the thin person inside starts coming out and your pride in your accomplishment will not be contained!  I can vision myself shouting it from the rooftops in my "after" pics - lol

but for now........

I told my kids, my husband, my sis in law( who is also my BFF) and a couple of old besties from back in Alberta. I did NOT tell my parents until after and I STILL don't tell everyone exactly what I did. I do tell immediate family, especially if they ask. I didn't send out an email or anything though.

I didn't want to deal with ignorance, pessimism, negativity and generally the holier than thou attitude that some people have when it comes to diet, weight and exercise. Wanna know where I met my hubby?...AT THE GYM!!! I worked at the gym, my boss was a professional body builder who took special delight in torturing me into amazing shape. LOL Man I loved her! It's not like I don't know what to do..it's just not that simple as we all know!

This is personal, if you feel like keeping it quiet, then do. I did and that is what works for me. I have told several of the mom's from my church. I know I can trust them to not gossip and if they do..OH BOY...it won't be pretty that's for sure. I didn't do this for anyone else..but the benefits are for everyone I know. I share my WLS details on a "need to know" basis.

Oh on a side note, about telling family..My bro in law and his fiance came home to visit. I haven't seen them since JUST before surgery last fall, so they didn't have a clue. Fiance freaked out..and bro in law just looked at me with a strange look on his face and said "who are you?" LMAO! OMG I just about died! SOOOOO funny!

I have been very open with everyone in my family and the people I work with.  All have been very supportive except for one comment about taking the easy way out.  Most people do not realize that this is not the easy way out but one of the hardest things you will ever do.

I am a very open person so if someone asks me about weightloss I will tell them.  I do not feel any shame in what I have done.  We all have journies in life and this is mine.

Hi guys on the topic of telling and not telling i told my husband and kids pretty much 3 days before my first trip to edmonton and my mother which was all panicked, i didnt say any thing to wor****ill i knew the date then only told the supervisor and she put it as medical leave for 5 weeks and i vanished after my last shift never said goodbye to any one or what i was doing and a different supervisor that i work more day day with i couldn't get the courage to telll her i wanted to but the opportunity wasent there. I told my best friend finally in march what i was doing because i had more info this was a 3 year process for me going back and forth to edmonton. Ido feel some guilt that people are going to judge me when i get back to work because before the surgery i had lost 25 pounds already and coming back to have lost more. You know they would've talked about if i told them and they are going to talk about when i get back screw them all its my life im the one that had to edure the pain and money put into and i want to live life with happiness and not be embarress of what i looked like i want the insides to match the outside's i have wasted 10 years of my life i feel as this big person top weight 260 on 5-4 height and not taking any pictures because of the uglys that came out of the camera, So this sept when we go to minnapolas i will be taking lots of pictures of ME and my kids to i guess lol i guess will throw in the husband also. Sorry for the blabbling on i think its maybe a touching subject for everyone going threw this process. TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL

I told my immediate family and my supervisor at work. I didn't want to get a lot of negative feedback, so I waited until after surgery to tell anybody else, if they asked. I am finding that post-surgery I don't really mind who knows. Pre-surgery I was nervous, and so kept it to just a small circle of friends.

Tanya

Your right, this is personal and your choice. I only told the ones I knew in the past to be supportive and non judgemental. ~Cheryl