Cop Out

What do you say to people who think that you're simply 'taking the easy way out' by having surgery rather than controlling your weight with diet and exercise?

Oh man I am not the person who should be answering this right now!!

See if  they can do the pre-op for 2 weeks and then the clear liquids for at least a week after surgery (which I won't even get into now) follow that with a week or so of mushies and then follow that with another week or so of  soft foods. Now of course they are only allowed certain types of food too! All while trying to cook for your family! And everytime they take even a small sip of water punch them in the stomach because that is what I am feeling right now!!! But they have to drink that fluid because they will get dehyrdrated and end up back in the hospital! I can continue but I think that is a good start....wait when they have to fart and it's starting to hurt make them hold it in until they are doubled over in pain!

As we all know that is only some of the easy parts of this surgery and life changing experience!

Sorry if I upset anyone but seriously! We are amazingly strong and powerful for doing what we have decided to do and I have never had more proud of myself and all the other people out there for doing it!!! Pat yourself on the back for me!!! Oh and screw them!

LOL!
Dean

2 words one starts with an F...... Iol

That is why I'm not going to tell to many people, glad I found this support group. Just ignore them they have no idea what your going through.

I totally agree with what Dean said! Why are people so freaking rude? That's like telling a woman who had to have a c-section she copped out. Or someone who has cancer to NOT get treatment and fight it on their own...I mean really?..UGH!

Yep..EF THAT CRAP!.....

Now I am taking my bad attitude to bed!...LOL

'Night all!

There is NOTHING easy about having this surgery....It is only a tool and what you eat is still very important. If yuo sit and eat cookies and chips all day you won't lose weight. Trust me, I have made a few mistakes.
The surgery is tough and pretty painful. I didn't tell too many people about my surgery just for that reason alone.
This is your journey and no one elses.
good luck
Nikki

 I had recently told a good friend of what I was hopeing to be accepted for.

This friend is very active, health conscience and I love her dearly. We have worked out together many times. But, she does not "get it"..what it is like to struggle all your life with being fat. 

Yes, I had many times lost weight..but..it all comes back. Always a struggle.

Now, what concerns me is my health..my weight is around my stomach mostly..and that is the most dangerous area to have it. I'm not an apple shape..I'm a pumkin shape!..I'm on blood pressure pills..my chol estral was high at my last Dr's appointment..and, yes..I am scared. I want to be here for my kids for as long as I can.

She tells me, she thinks I can do it without this..and it's dangerous..I tell her..I am dangerous to myself now..She has no idea what it is like..I actually got abit put off, and became defensive..saying..I am going to see if I am accepted..if I am..I consider this a wonderful gift..like a fresh start almost..
I then relised some people will never understand the need for this, and always see this as a cop out..there is not much I can do about that. But I can focus on being the healthiest I can be..

My sister rocks tho...lol, she was the one who showed me this forum, and told me about the procedures..she is behind me , 120%!..

I'll lean on her to help me..

I am too scared to get excited yet..as I have not been seen in St B yet..if I am rejected..yes..I will shed tears...so I don't want to allow myself to feel excited.

But, I sure love hear about all the excitment and success  here..and I love how supportive everyone is to each other.

(oopppss...sorry, I got off topic..I tend to do that at times)