Contemplating RNY, but my fear is stopping me !!!
Hi All, I am new here and was hoping some could offer advice. I have been contemplating RNY for nearly 2 years but the statistics scare the hell out of me. I have an apt w/Dr. Stiles @ Tufts on Monday. I am really hoping to be able to go through with this because I so want a new lease on life. I have struggle with my weight since high school (20 years ago) and have never one the battle. I have tried every diet under the son. Some success but in the end always seemed to gain the weight back w/some extra. I am at my heaviest now than ever. I have a BMI of 42. I'm am so distressed w/my weight and would love to have success w/WLS.
Is this normal? How do you come to terms w/the risks of WLS. I have two boys at home that I don't want to leave motherless !
Any suggestions you could offer would be greatly appreciated !
Thanks you
Is this normal? How do you come to terms w/the risks of WLS. I have two boys at home that I don't want to leave motherless !
Any suggestions you could offer would be greatly appreciated !
Thanks you
The risks did scare me but like you I am also a Mom ...and not being able to do stuff with my 9 year old was enough for me to say it's time to do something! I waisted so many years being the fat Mom ..the Mom who couldn't do much because of my size. This summer I have done some major catching up! We've been to a few amusement parks, vacations, hiking, and so much more. I would of never done these things before because I either just assumed I was too fat or I really couldn't do them because I'd be so hot and out of breath. Or I was just simply embarrased. This summer is the first summer I've worn a bathing suit in a good 10 years!
I guess for me the risks out weigh what would happen to me if I continued that life style. I didn't want to be 70 years and weigh 300 pounds. No way! I didn't want diabetes, heart problems, etc.
I say ..go to your appointment ask anything and everything you want. Attend support groups. Meet people who have had the surgery and get informed.
Good luck!
I guess for me the risks out weigh what would happen to me if I continued that life style. I didn't want to be 70 years and weigh 300 pounds. No way! I didn't want diabetes, heart problems, etc.
I say ..go to your appointment ask anything and everything you want. Attend support groups. Meet people who have had the surgery and get informed.
Good luck!
Thank you for your response. I greatly appreciate it. I dont think anyone can understand/relate to this surgery unless they've been there or are contemplating it themselves.
I cant even imagine going to the hosp the day of ! My god, that must be nerve racking. How long did your surgery take? How long before your up on your feet feeling well again? Im wondiner how long I will need to stay out of work?
I do know that if I continue the way I am going, its only gonna get worse and more things will begin to go wrong medicall speaking.
Thanks again for replying !
I cant even imagine going to the hosp the day of ! My god, that must be nerve racking. How long did your surgery take? How long before your up on your feet feeling well again? Im wondiner how long I will need to stay out of work?
I do know that if I continue the way I am going, its only gonna get worse and more things will begin to go wrong medicall speaking.
Thanks again for replying !
You're absolutely right to have concerns -- this is not a trivial surgery. What you need to bear in mind, though, is that, on average, the outcomes in Centers of Excellence such as Tufts (and NSMC Salem Hospital, which I had my RNY 10 weeks ago) are superior to those of other institutions. You also have to be careful of the vintage of some of the adverse event and mortality statistics you see reported on the Web. Many times someone will repeat the same old stats from the late 90s rather than current outcomes. With experience and refinement, outcomes generally have improved greatly over the past six or seven years, even in non-Centers of Excellence.
Everyone is different when it comes to surgery time, recovery, etc. I went into the OR at 8 am, was in recovery at 10:30, and in my room at 12:40 pm. I was up walking at 5:15 and again at 8:30. My surgery was on a Monday and I was discharged around 7pm on Wednesday. I had a script for Percocet 5mg 1-2 tabs q 4-6 hours...certainly needed it the first few days but by Day 7 post-surgery I was off pain meds. I felt "well" by the day of hospital discharge -- still had some pain, but not anything too bothersome. Just be prepared for the loss of stamina -- this is major surgery, and your body will need time to recuperate.
As far as work was concerned, I probably would have been able to return after 3 weeks but since my firm offers full pay for the first 4 weeks of short-term disability, I didn't ru**** If you can take the time, take it...you only have one body, and after all isn't that part of the reason for having the surgery in the first place -- to take care of your body the right way?
Hope this helps.
-Mason
Everyone is different when it comes to surgery time, recovery, etc. I went into the OR at 8 am, was in recovery at 10:30, and in my room at 12:40 pm. I was up walking at 5:15 and again at 8:30. My surgery was on a Monday and I was discharged around 7pm on Wednesday. I had a script for Percocet 5mg 1-2 tabs q 4-6 hours...certainly needed it the first few days but by Day 7 post-surgery I was off pain meds. I felt "well" by the day of hospital discharge -- still had some pain, but not anything too bothersome. Just be prepared for the loss of stamina -- this is major surgery, and your body will need time to recuperate.
As far as work was concerned, I probably would have been able to return after 3 weeks but since my firm offers full pay for the first 4 weeks of short-term disability, I didn't ru**** If you can take the time, take it...you only have one body, and after all isn't that part of the reason for having the surgery in the first place -- to take care of your body the right way?
Hope this helps.
-Mason