You are very defensive....I was not judging you, only trying to give you some advice!
1) Telling 1/2 the story is never a good thing!
2) You say you've had problems since day one. Ok.
You have now hid your profile...hmmm! I recall you once saying (on the RI board) ...you were over a year out and had not been to see Dr. Ryder in approx. a year because you have not lost weight and you were afraid she was going to blame you. I was one that told you to go see her. I recall you saying you had one or 2 fills. Waiting all that time probably did nothing for those fills. Then you went back the begining of this year after a year from your last fill. I don't know what happened other then you saying Dr. Ryder was understanding.
3) You said "I am saying that she chooses not to give me any more fills b/c of the PROBLEMS i have with the band NOT the eating." I have to wonder...other then losing no weight...now much problems could you of been having...you avoided her for about a year?
3) "So please dont assume that I am "eating around my band" You admitting in another post here that eating was part of the problem. I did not accuse you of eating around the band. I simply reminded you that if you were, the band was not going to work. No where did I say "you are eating around your band. I said if you were....
4) "I have had issues with the band you have no clue about." I don't doubt that...I'm no mind reader...I can only comment from what you say on this board...not what you fail to leave out.
5) "Oh and by the way Dr Ryder absolutely told me to try ALLI or to go on an all liquid diet. The reason I chose not to do the all liquid diet is b/c she said I would need to be monitored by her nutrition woman. I dont WANT to go up to Providence all the time for that stuff." Where did I say she never said that? Again...I'm no mind reader. I simply said there are 2 sides to every story. I said based on what she said..it all stemmed back to eating so I felt that Dr. Ryder was worried about your eating habits. I am taking a educated guess based on the facts you left. You are not willing to drive to Providence to be supervised by a nutritionist but you now want to travel to Boston?
6) "SO by saying it takes 5,6,7 fills- that does not pertain to me." Has that been verified? You have not had 5, 6, 7 fills. Infact you want more fills that you stated Dr. Ryder said it wouldn't do any good and you don't understand why. As far as the fill count, that's based on what I've read here and what Dr. Ryder has said. And no where did I say in ALL cases.
7) "I havent cried in her office that this band is causing me pain BUT I was willing to take the pain if it meant losing weight, for nothing." This is about health...this is why we all have chosen some sort of WLS. If you are in that much pain that you feel the need to cry (other then frustration) , you need to address that with Dr. Ryder. No amount of pain is worth keeping your month shut if you are going to loose weight. What kinda life would that be...to only find out later that you could of been avoiding a much more serious problem!
8) "I was Dr Ryder's 1st or 2nd lap band patient, so we go back." I knew this...I read it in your profile. The good thing is...she's further out now and knows alot more about WLS. Dr. Ryder is a lap. surgeon... we go way back too...The entire year of 2005. Never have I once seen her not listen or take all accounts into matter.
9) "OH and another thing- the BAND fails alot of people- GOOGLE IT." I don't need to google it. I knew that before I had surgery myself. I never said otherwise! Infact...google all your options, you'll see WLS doesn't work for everyone, short term or long term!
10) "I am still appalled at how you JUMPED TO CONCLUSIONS and said Dr Ryder thinks my problem is food intake." I spoke from your info. I said "I think" that was the reason based on the info you left! I wasn't jumping to conclusions, only looking at things as I saw them. As I said earlier...I'm no mind reader. I don't know what Dr. Ryder's thoughts are...nor yours!
11) "You are responding to what OTHERS have said mostly." What others would that be? I'm responding based on what I've learned from experienced people (that have actually had the surgery) and for anyone that reads this site knows that everyone is different!
12) "AND another thing-When I told Dr Ryder that this was just like one big DIET and not surgically helping like its supposed to- she said that I was her FIRST patient to mention it felt like a diet." YOU are basing that on one surgeons opinion (Dr. Ryder has never had WLS!) ....read the boards and you'll find out that this is a problem among many who have not received adequate restriction yet. This was something you should of been aware of prior to having the procedure.
13) "Try going back and reading MY posts only and then maybe you'll get a clue before you going running back to Ryder and tell her *I* said she was a jerk. It just seems like your the type."
Jumping to conclusions? Where did I say you said Dr. Ryder was a jerk???? Dr. Ryder is a big girl...these boards are open to all the surgeons. If Dr. Ryder is worried about what people are saying about her...she can read for herself. She doesn't need me or anyone else running to her like a child to tattle tale.
Last but not least....My type huh?..... that's quite comical and immature!
I find your response very defensive. I did not jump on you...only gave my opinion on a public board based on your facts. It seems to me there's alot more to your story that you feel to admit! You need to get to the bottom of your situation because putting a bandaid over it isn't going to help you in the long run.
Good luck!