Calling on anyone more than 6 months out

So sorry for your loss.  I would suggest Protein Shakes and Bars.   I love my crockpot..just throw it all in and your done and leftovers are easy and quick to heat up. 

(((HUGS))) for you and your family.

 I am sorry for your loss. Not gaining with or without the band is an amazing feit.
Start with all of the basics and crocpotting is great.
When your ready go back to cooking it is what he loved and I am sure you have so many good memories cooking together.
Wendu

Ah Steph. I am so sorry to here of your loss. I cannot imagine the unbearable pain of losing a child so young. You are very correct to say you are just hanging on by your fingernails. I have been there. 4 years ago we lost our middle daughter, unexpectedly and she left two sons. They were 10 and 6 at the time. The devastation it left was horrific. I failed out of a nursing program that I had just begun after 3 years of prep work. My mind was just gone. I cried my eyes out whenever I had to drive more than 10 minutes, and my diet was horrible. So, I know where you are coming from.

The only advice I have for you is to eat in the most healthful manner you can. A good friend gave us that advice and it was good. In order for our minds and hearts to heal we have to be in the best physical condition we can get. I would tell you that you should not even attempt a full overhaul of your eating right now. It is one thing too many. Try to start with walking a little bit, I'm sure it will involve crying, too. Then remove as much of the sliders as you can. If you are having some make it one serving only. When goodies come in let your family have it and if you can't deal with having it around then give it away. That is the kindest thing you can do for yourself.

You must be patient and kind to yourself. You are not failing your band or your diet or anything else. You have been hit by probably the worst thing that can happen. It takes time to heal, a long time. Your band will still be there to help you out when you are ready.

Please get some counseling and even meds if you need. We did. I am so grateful that we did because a lot of good came from it.

I will be praying for all of you. Please keep us posted, we want to be here for you and encourage. There isn't any judging progress here so don't you do it to yourself. After a year you may be able to really move ahead just don't ru****

I wish I could say that the pain gets much better soon, but it won't. What it will do is after a while it will become easier to withstand the onslaughts of extreme pain. One day you will be able to smile for a while and another day be a mess. It is part of the healing process. Take it one day at a time.

If you would like to hear what we did to make the holidays easier give me a shout with a message.
Sue

just wanted to say how sorry i am to here about your son......i know no words can make it better we lost my wonderful nephew at 18 almost 9 years ago and it still hurts everyday just try to stick with proteins and the right foods good luck you are a very strong woman bless you

 I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I can't imagine what your going through. I have only been banded since August of this year - but I can tell you whats been working for me. Last Friday I lost my grandfather and I've always been an emotional eater and though I worked through this issue during my psyc sessions for the surgery it was still hard. I would have to agree with the post that said have a list of things you like to do besides eating. My new obsession is Zumba - I love it - so the day I found out about my grandfather I did 2 Zumba classes. I did feel like I needed something Sweeney 1 day and allowed myself to have a chocolate chip cookie from dunkin donuts- yup I let myself have it - but only 1 - besides that comfort food for me were burgers n pasta dishes - so instead of a big juicy cheesburger - I made a cheese turkey burger on lettuce it was delicious and an excellent source of protien. I also made baked ziti for my family n made a tiny pan for me with a couple of noodles and mostly sauce meat and cheese and it satisfied my want for comfort food - so with a little adjusting you can hav some of those things - limiting you carbs is key. If your eating out a lot try better choices - Wendy's is always at the top of my list because I know I can have chilli with cheese. Good luck - wishing you well

Hugs! So sorry for what you have been through!!!


A mothers Prayer

An emptyness that I now feel,
since you left I love you still.
For you the pictures I have drawn,
but my pain goes on and on.

I miss you now, but your with God
And I know your near.
Listen as I pray at night,
for you will always hear.

If I had one wish come true,
My only wish would be for you.
To hold you in my arms once more,
Tell you I love you, forever and more.

And now my son if I may near,
Im saying that I love you dear
with all my loveing heart,
I'll never forget you,
I loved you from the start!

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