Dating after the Lap Band

I need some opinions....Ive met my goal weight actually lost a little more. Ive have on countless amount of dates in the last few months but nothing works out. Im still sooo self conscious about how I look and I try to ruin things before a relationship can even be started. Ive been talking to this guy for 3 weeks on the phone. He's seen pics of me but those pics dont show my stomach rolls or extra skin and I wasent sitting down in them. I did tell him about the surgery and hes totally fine with it  but Im so insecure with myself that Im ready to cancel this date and its tonight!!!! Has anyone else been through this? I hate the way my stomach, thighs and other things look so I dont want anyone to see them lol! I know I shouldnt care what people think and they should except me for me but its very hard. When I look in the mirror I still see the old me.......

You are beautiful! And any man who is worth a darn will see the same thing! Don't worry girl just go on the date and enjoy yourself, you deserve it after all your hard work losing that weight. I still see me at over 300 pounds and it's a very difficult thing to deal with. I have always been shy and self conscious so I can relate but just be yourself and enjoy the night! You never know this one could be "the one" lol

You look great and I assume you are feeling much better too - but it sounds like you still have some self confidence issues and some difficulties with acceptance of who you are. Anyone who goes through lots of change deals with these - they are perfectly normal. I work in the Psychology field and would strongly recommend that you get some personal counselling - what you need to change is the messages your brain sends you and to learn to love yourself - just as you are. 

Often the surgery clinics have psychogists familiar with WLS patients associated with them - if not - that is something you should look for when seeking out a psychologist as not everyone understands the journey.  Your state psychological association should have an online list of practitioners and their areas of expertise.

Good luck and keep us posted. In the meantime - keep the date and have fun!

I agree, go on the date! I am jealous, I have lost all the weight but still can't seem to find dates. I did match.com for 3 months and only had one quick date that went nowhere. Find an outfit that covers what bothers you and that should increase your self confidence. Once a man gets to know you, he will accept your body just the way it is. Congratulations on your weight loss!

I think that is very sweet advice my friend.....really I have been self conscious even when I weighed 118 pounds.......you have to find some one whom you feel safe with.. that may take some "dateing time" don't think because you go out with him once you have to bed him...make him want it so bad it blinds him to all the other stuff, he will want you regardless...be patient my friend!