Good Bye for now

The choice is yours but most any forum is gonna be the same way.Like Pumpkin said just don't open them and block anyone that bothers you,then you can use the support and not stress over the conflict.

Jenny --

The one thing I have learned is that I didn't come this far to be run off by those where ignorance is bliss... I have seen those who feel the need to be mean or verbally abusive are those that have issues within themselves where misery loves company.. Don't be their company.. I come here once in a while because I need to be around others that are going through the same thing that I am or have or will be... The negativity I ignore that is THEIR monkey not Yours... Leave that on their back...

You got banded because you wanted to better yourself and your life. Continue to DO IT.... don't stop now... We all need support - some more then others and some just need an audience...

Continue on your journey but know that the good ones are always here when you need some positive bandsters too chat with.

Good Bless.

I completely understand where you are at.  This website's reputation has definitely been taking the hits.

And honestly, if the moderators enforced the website's rules...many posters would be deactivated.

I find the following statement quite alarming.

"Some like to hear the pros and cons while researching their surgery choices and others only want the sparkly rainbow version."

There's a huge difference in posting the pros, the cons, and complications of the band and posters who are just so far out there, that it screams mental issues to be honest.

It makes one wonder........
 

What about those ( like you ) that contribute to old post's just to **** with the OP ....You remember, like the one you kept posting on the other day just to **** with Maria.

You must be mental too.

Some posters can choose to block the replies of those that they deem as negative posts, but others will read them to as informative and that's really all this is about.
You probably see it as an attack, but I see it as putting all the truth about the lap band out there.

You're band has been good to you my band(s) have been nothing but hell for me. 
You are a bully.

To Pumpkin X.

I would like to ask what you are doing about your failed band? What does your doctor recommend you do? What is the long term plan for your situation? Have you or are you going to have the band removed since it has failed you? What are your options?

I'm a believer in doing anything and everything about a bad situation.  Once I've done that, if it is still not what I had expected it to be, I accept it and move forward. How many successful people do you know that are successful because they love drama and misery?

It's sad to say, but I can see some posters on these boards who will be in the exact same place in five years.  That's sad.

As for your comment about being a bully.....really?

As for Maria, I basically got tired of reading her rants where she states that she did everything right, followed the rules, etc., etc. and knowing that I met her the week(actually 3-4 days) of her surgery and she was attempting to eat foods from the buffet that were not allowed at that time.(and if we want to be real honest, not in her immediate future at that time) She was just as unhappy then(3-4 days after surgery) as she is now.

My band has been good to me.  Perfect? No.  But could it be that some of my choices have contributed to that? Absolutely.

Could I have a complication in the future and be disappointed?  Most definitely.  Do I think I've been duped about this surgery? No.  

And finally, I'm not aware of any surgery that is an absolute guarantee!(complication free) 

I knew that going in to this.  I was just thankful that I had an option.  If for some reason in the future some thing does go wrong with my band, I will do what I can and move forward.  I can also tell others about my experience.  But I can do it with couth.

I would like to ask what you are doing about your failed band? What does your doctor recommend you do? What is the long term plan for your situation? Have you or are you going to have the band removed since it has failed you? What are your options?

My PCP has written numerous referrals for me to see my band surgeon and they have all been denied based on the fact that my ins says I am a successful bandster,

I have appealed theses denials countless times and I am still being denied.

My only option right now with my present ins is to see the gastro doc. They will not let me see my band surgeon. I went to the gastro doc and am currently scheduled for an abdominal ultrasound,endoscopy, and a colonoscopy. ( You would think that it would cost them less to send me to my band surgeon huh )

Currently I am suffering from the following and yet I am still not being approved to see my band surgeon.

Burning pain near my port area
Stinging pain near my port area
Night coughs
Acid reflux

One day I'm too tight and another day I am wide open. My only option is to switch ins during our " Open Enrollment " period which is this week. I have switched but the change will not go into affect until July 1st.

I'm a believer in doing anything and everything about a bad situation.  Once I've done that, if it is still not what I had expected it to be, I accept it and move forward. How many successful people do you know that are successful because they love drama and misery?

My ins company thinks I'm successful.


Just because Maria ate something that wasn't on her surgeons post op list doesn't mean that that is why the band failed her or that she failed the band. We all make mistakes don't we ?


Can Maria be overzealous sometimes. Hell yeah she can be, but that doesn't mean that the band didn't fail her.

That'll fix us.