A different kind of NSV

 My mom is failing, she was a long time smoker and has significant lung disease and is now on oxygen 24/7.  She lives 1500 miles away.  I took my 3 kids to visit over spring break, we had alot to do as she is moving into assisted living June1.   I am such an emotional eater, I was scared that dealing with my mom (always a trigger) who is now ill (trigger 2) with my kids (trigger 3) over a major candy holiday would be a disaster,  I went for a therapy appt prior to going, that really helped.  When I felt myself starting to get emotional or take something my mom said personally ..I backed off, calmed down and just tried to appreciate the time we all had together.  I ate pretty much waht I wanted...whi*****luded my fair share of easter candy.  BUT I didn't binge and I didn't cry..well just a little upon leaving this am.  I got much of the work done and did it with a smile.  

Better still I managed to lose a pound....

I am so proud of myself that I got thru this week, and I did it in control.

Huge NSV

Huge. 

Been there, done that (not the lung disease part, but the failing mom part). I know what a huge NSV this is and I'm very proud of you.

But it's OK to cry, you know...

Jean

 Oh I have no problem crying..and I do.  But I just wanted to be in control of my emotions instead of them controlling me.  Since this will most likely be the last time my kids visit their gramdma in her own house I also wanted it to be as stable and light as I could make it.  Not that I was detached but I didn't let her digs get to me...I set them aside.  I spent all week with relatives commenting on my weight loss (in a complementary way..but I have issues, man...lol) and I just thanked them, answered their questions honestly and changed the subject.  No weirdness.

damn, I may have behaved...like an adult.....

hmmmmmmmm

;)

Sounds like you did great in a tough situation!  I was wondering how it went for you.  And to lose a pound is something to be proud of.  I bet it feels good to be back home. 

Take care,
Kristi

 I'm so sorry about your mom. I read this great book called The law of the garbage truck. It talks about not reacting to triggers. It has helped me a lot to separate the garbage from the important. Sounds like you did great on your trip. 

Sounds like you handled a very stressful event very well.

I am sorry that your mom's health is failing.

My Dad had COPD (I called it Cranky Old People Disease) ;-) So I know how trying they can be when they are always a trigger to begin with......plus having to deal with even more because they are sick.

Congrats on not binging with all the extra stress!

Congrats on staying in control!!!!  

And sorry to hear about your mom.  

I'm sorry that your mom and you have to go through this...but it is great that you are able to handle your emotions without binging...yea for the 1 lb loss!!