I choose the surgery over my relationship

Well, I decided to follow through with my surgery 4/21. I never thought I would be put in a situation where I would be forced to make a choice between my health and my boyfriend. Well I choose life. How dare I be so selfish! (is he serious) Oh well, I guess this is officially my new beginning in more that one way. YAY ME!!!!!

 I'm kind of right with you. I have seen a side to my fiance because of this surgery that I really, really dislike. (I also got the selfish line...)

You made the right choice, though, girl! Congratulations and good luck!

Haters to the LEFT! :)  Yay.  Apparently, he is too insecure to handle the thought of a new, happier you.  When it comes to your health, you HAVE to be selfish.

I have to say Im hurt and disgusted but, Im not going to allow anyone that type of control in my life. Especially someone who is not my spouse. I did explain that if he couldnt be supportive now I wouldnt have faith in any kind of future with him. Im concentrating on having a succesful surgery and weightloss with my band. Thank you guys for being supportive.

 we must stay true to ourselves. 

unsupportive people have little place in my life.

If I'm happy, and they really care and love me, they will support me....

congrats on your decision, which I'm sure must not have been easy.....

 I'm sorry you even had to make that decision.  But I think you did the right thing.  You have to do what's best for you and your life first.  It's like when you're on a plane and the flight attendant goes through all the emergency instructions.  "When the oxygen masks come down, please place the mask on YOURSELF FIRST, then a child or anyone who needs your help."  

Sounds like this guy is very insecure and is afraid you'll get all skinny and hot, and will decide you're too good for him.  Little did he know you are already too good for him.  Congratulations!!!!!  
~ Barbara

you didn't choose surgery, you chose LIFE!  and that is the best choice of all!

 When I was pre-op , my doc told me 50% of relationships end after this surgery, and was I okay with this. Mine ended, not sure if that was why as I had support for wls, but now I am super picky about relationships bc I feel so much better about myself.

That sounds like his insecurity...he's unsure of how it will change you.  Oh well, use this as a stepping stone...not to let anyone keep you from your overall health and happiness.  Good luck to you, we're being banded the SAME DAY! 

Back2.....I don't know you, but I am proud of you....You chose your life...way to go!!  My husband LOATHED the idea of me having surgery.  He asked me one day, "if you had to choose, would you pick the surgery over me?"  I told him, "I am NOT picking surgery over you, but I will pick my health over you".  I told him I was really sorry if those words hurt, but I have 3 kids to worry about and what good will it do, if I go on like I was and be dead in another 10 years.  I wouldn't see my babies graduate, walk down the aisle or live to see my grandbabies.  I told him I wouldn't live to get old with him, which I want to do so badly, because I love him more then anything, but I have to put my health first.  He didn't like that answer, but I can tell you I got surgery 3/23 and he has been my biggest fan.  I am proud of you and I wish you nothing but the best in your journey.  Surgery is stressfull enough, you don't need your home life to be that much more stressful....Way to go and congrats!!  {{hugs to you}}