I have come too far to fail. Please help?

I am a year and 1/2 post op.  I have lost alot of weight.  I was almost at goal.  I have gained 10 pounds back, gotten lazy and am finding myself going back to my old habits.

Please help me before I go back to where I came from?

Today I have had 5 ice cream sandwiches.  I don't even like them.  I didn't buy them, my husband did but I ate them.  I can't control everything that is brought into our home but I SHOULD be able to control the things I put into my mouth.

This has nothing to do with needing a fill, it is not physical.  It is mental.

What can I do?  I have been telling myself over and over for 4 months that I will "get on track tomorrow", well that has yet to happen.

I want that fire back that I had for the first year.

Please help me.  I am at the end of my rope.  I feel like giving up.  I feel like a failure.

DP

Not saying this out of meaness but I suggest you seek counseling because you are eating just to be eating (even thing that you dont even like). There is something going on that until you get to the root of it, you cant go forward.

Just a couple of thoughts....

1. Have a talk with your husband and ask him (nicely) not to bring things like that into the house. My husband and I had to have several heart to heart talks before and after my surgery so he could better understand my issues with food, which I had been too ashamed to share with him up to that point.

2. Go through the house and get rid of any trigger foods. I can't keep anything like that in my house. I am not good with moderation, but I'm not good with deprivation either. If I really want a "treat" of some kind, I go out and get one serving.

3. Ten pounds is NOT that much and hardly makes you a "failure"!!! But you have to stop it NOW. Only you can stop this before 10 lbs. turns into 20, then 30, etc. Go back and reread some of the materials you got from your surgeon's office, nutritionist, etc. Make a follow up appointment with your nutritionist, if you have to.

4. Get yourself excited about eating healthy again. Research some great new band-friendly recipes. Visit a farmer's market or gourmet food shop and try something new.

5. Enlist some extra support from a friend, therapist, or someone else you trust. Get involved here on the board. Surround yourself with people who are supportive and helpful.

Nothing against your husband, nor do I want to stir up **** but if he wants to support you, he and anyone else that lives with you, needs to quit bringing the junk into the house, or at least, hide it. It's hard for food addicts to have will power or to resist the temptations of this type of "crack" in the house. I would suggest that you seek the help of a dietician/counselor who specializes in obesity patients and have your family sit in with you. I have a lifetime membership at my weight loss center so I can go in anytime for counseling. Is that something you have access to? Don't give up! Start reaching for other items that are high in protein like low-fat mozzarella cheese sticks, yogurts, oatmeal etc. Make sure you are drinking fluids all day long. I know it's not easy, but you can do this. Start getting on here more also. Here's a good website for you to refer to.

http://www.lap-band-surgery-site.com/lap-band-diet.html

Good luck to you Sweetie and get to a bariatric Dr. This procedure requires a lifetime of follow up from a physician.

Jen-

In my office at work we have a pantry of every single goodie you can think of and there is nothing I can do to control those things...

Yes you can ask your hubby not to buy them and not to bring them to house until your stronger but you are still going to be confronted by "treats' we shouldn't consume in large amounts...

with all being said until you have the motiviation to stop you won't...
You need your mojo and I get it .. a previous poster suggested finding new foods to cook.. maybe sign up for a class something out of your comfort zone.. I took a yoga class and love it.. once you find something to relate to WHY your making changes.. feeling better about yourself etc you won't get out of your slump...

Good Luck

One of the things I have learned is that there are certain trigger foods that once I eat one, I cannot stop.  Even after all of these years with the band.  The best advice I can give you is keep these foods out of  your house.  Occasionally I still eat 5 ice cream sandwiches or whatever trigger foods get me going.  When I do, I get low fat, sugar free or soy based.  Your husband and everyone else in your household should not bring these foods into the house.  It is called sabotage.  As we know the band doesn't let these foods fill us up.  You are not lazy, not in the least.  We are like alcoholics we need to stay away from these trigger foods.  Occasionally I do indulge, but I don't keep these foods in the house. 

This has to come from inside of you.

I will say that a very small fill might help ---  for me it is the difference between, "I can eat" and "I don't want to eat"

OA has helped me alot with the 'control over what goes in to my mouth' ---- I have been abstinent from my trigger foods for over 2 years with the help of OA. 
www.therecoverygroup.org

Perhaps some counseling to figure out why you want 5 ice cream sandwiches and why your husband continues to buy them...

Make a list. Go shopping. Get lots of healthy snack items that you LIKE. If you don't have a good selection of go to foods around the house u are much more likely to grab your husbands ice cream. That being said............there's noting wrong with grabbing the ice cream.......as long as you jump right back the healthy diet. Have treats. Don't deprive yourself. But make sure that majority of your food are good choices. I don't eat what I am "suppose to" at times. But I will say that at least 90% of the time I now eat much better choices.............and it makes a huge difference!

Different ppl have different approacher. Find what works for YOU!