Help! I need motivation!

Good morning All!
I need to be remotivated. I am almost 5 months post op and this weekend i feel off the wagon! I have lost 50 pounds so far and this weekend was the one year anniversary of my mothers passing and i have found myself going back to my old ways with the emotional eating.
Last night i started to clean out my refrig. from all the unhealthy things so i do not have it in the house to eat. I have gained 2-4 pds and this cant keep going!.
I keep thinking i need like a reminder bracelet for me to wear kind of like the "cancer sucks" plastic bands people wear!

Help!!! 

Oh sister how I feel your pain. I lost my dad last year he was in the hospital Thanksgiving and died on Christmas.. and I gained .... wait for it.... 20 pounds.. and I hated myself for it! Because it hasn't been easy to get it off and second I let certain foods back into my diet that I hadn't consumed in large quanities like damn Cheetos!!

Listen to me you are two steps ahead of the gain you already reconized that you are gaining and it matters to you.. I shoved it into the back of my mind. You are already armed with the mindset to clean out the fridge clean the house of junk and my suggestion take that sadness and anger out at the gym.. take a walk or do a video at home.. just get moving .. I know you won't be perfect on food because HELLO as bigger people is likely we turn to food when we are sad.. but if you only do it 1 out of 10 times instead of 10 out of 10 times.. well at least you have exercise to help combat those calories. I'm not asking you to be perfect I'm asking you not to wallow in food like I did.

Your stronger than you think.. Good Luck!!

Great support and advice.  I personally think Cheetos are the devil reincarnated.lol

Thank you for that response! That is EXACTLY what i was needing to hear. I am working hard today to get back on track and once i get there its easier to stay on track. its just big anniversarys like that, they put me through alot.
I am going to take my frustration and anger out on the tredmill not my hand to mouth exercises.

Thank you again and ii am sorry to hear about your loss too

Being aware is the first step. I am sorry for your loss. It is still 'natural' for you to turn to food. It takes a long time to retrain our brains.


As for "a reminder bracelet" I bought one that says:

One bite at a time.  One decision at a time.

I wear it everyday to keep me mindful when reaching for food. I LOVE the quote. I purchased it from Jen at PriorFatGirl.com

 I really like that!  I sometimes have a tendency to fall into a very destructive thought pattern about food.  "I already had one ________, I might as well finish the whole bag.", or "I know I need to eat better, but I'll wait until after ____________, to get started again."  Fact is, each bite counts, but only the one being eaten NOW.  The ones in the past are done, over, and no longer "count" in the greater scheme of things.  The only bite that matters is the one going in your mouth *right now*."  One bite at a time.  One decision at a time."  Love it.  

Tami

Thank you all for the motivating words of incouragement! I just ordered a band..thank you for suggesting that. Even though i have a band around my tummy i need one that i can see to remind me everytime i reach for something what my goal is <3

Thanks again!!! 

 My mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer about 3-4 months after I reached goal.  I was her primary care giver, and it was a very stressful time. For the last three months of her life, and the 3-4 months after her death, I really couldn't focus on my own needs.  I am fortunate that with the band, I only gained about 15 lbs. It's perfectly normal to occasionally slip up due to stress or emotional pain. But each day, each meal, each bite, is a new opportunity to re-focus on *you*.  You are worth it, and I'll bet it's what your mom would want for you, too.

Best wishes,

Tami