OT Adventures in dating ....sigh

Many of you know the stories I post about some of the dates...most are like OMG.....  This one is kinda sad....

See, he is a very nice guy, and is sweet so far, tells me how "hot" I am without making me feel like he is looking at my butt or top or anything like that.  He takes me out for Starbucks coffee and tells me how amazing I am... He has great friends that like me and well...they seem like very nice people.....it should be perfect....with two tiny ...huge   problems.....  First...I am just not overly attracted to him.... I don't have a rational for that... I mean, he isn't hard to look at.... and is very loving...but unless is kissing me I am just not overly drawn to him (he IS a great kisser).

He doesn't have his life in order... I mean he has a job at a local drug store but according to him its just enough to pay the bills with very little left over for anything or anyone else.  He confided in me how on our date on Saturday the reason he didn't drink anything when he bought my coffee was because that was the last $4 he had with him and didn't want to tell me.....  I'm not after someones money...but at same time I need to feel like someone can take care of me if the need arose.... he mentioned all these bills he has and how he doesn't even want to do what he is going to school to get a degree in...how he will be going to school more after that....with no plans as to where to end up.......  

Leave it to me...I FINALLY find a guy with manners and thinks I am wonderful, even tells me I am out of his league....and its someone that doesn't have his life together or any plan on doing so....   ....sigh  sometimes not sure if its worth the effort to keep trying.... we have decided to stay coffee buddies, even though we are not going to date he wants to have coffee with me...... wishing he was a jerk...then I wouldnt feel bad about not wanting to date him....  I do think he is a very nice person...just not who I am looking for .... I only hope that somewhere the who I am looking for is still looking for me....

Really wish I could take the qualities that I desire in a man and combine several to hit 85% of what I desire.....

.....just keep swimming
Swoosh

 Sorry SWOOSH, that kinda stinks.  I mean if he takes you out with only 4.00 in his pocket...uh yeah. Can you date him and still keep looking.  I mean as long as the companionship (and kissing) are good and you have your eyes wide open and are honest could that be a bad thing? 

well I am sure he would agree to that.....but I really don't want to do anything that is gonna hurt this guy....he is a very nice guy and would feel  bad about it.  I think we will still to coffee and not kissing..... would rather be a bit sad then know I had hurt someone that so didn't deserve it.

I really believe there is someone out there for you.  I will keep my fingers crossed for you Swoosh!

Thanks guess I will keep looking....but does get frustrating at time :) thank you for the happy thoughts :)