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http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/vsg/4356901/Ex-Bandsters-t hose-in-transition-PLEASE-show-some-support/   She doesn't have enough guts to post this on the band forum.  One more person to add to my block list.

You know that makes me mad because I have been nothing but nice to people with problems/ issues.  I have seen a lot of kindness on this board towards people with band issues.  I know there are some out there that are mean and cruel...but to judge us all based on a few is wrong. 

Wow, interesting.  I liked the fact that "why would a person who had WLS want to fail, ie:  I believe she meant "not try?" - Um, hello, I had rny in 04 and due to transfer addiction and a huge stress factor in my life over the past 1-1/2 years I gained back like 80 pounds - did I want (it) to fail?  Heck no.  Am I happy with my weight gain?  No...Am I disgusted in myself and my failure?  Yeah...but I am human...key word is HUMAN.  So, now I have the band, have lost 30 pounds, and still struggle with food addiction...so, I'm looking into talk therapy (really - I have the numbers out here on my desk to call THIS TIME) because I cannot do this on my own AND surgery IS a tool, not a cure-all for all our problems...whew...

Typical of those who like to spin everything band related in a bad direction...

That really sadden me. I have apologize to Wanda and will not go to another forum to justify a misunderstanding on my part. What I will do is take a break from posting on this board. it is a fact that noone can misunderstand you if you keep your mouth shut. I will go back to lurking...it is truly a good place to be.

I wish you wouldn't just lurk...that would be the intent of those who want to be the ONLY voices that are heard, to have everyone who is brave enough to put themselves out there and risk being misunderstood, just go back to lurking. 

One of the things I do before challenging a poster is to check out their profile page.  It helps to get a little history and know a bit about the person.  In your case, the profile is private and you may have tried this and been unable to access...in that case it is best to just ask one question and see where that takes you.   The one time I really stuck my foot in my mouth, I failed to do that (the profile was public) and ended up apologizing for being rude (cause I was and I was stressed out by family issues).  The person I offended accepted my apology and even reached out to friend me afterwards and a certain person had to bring that up yesterday, nearly 5 months later!

Hang in there and things will cool down a bit.  I am sure you meant no harm.

Steph

I wouldn't go back to lurking, if I were you.  You apologized.  We have all done or said things we wish we hadn't and the fact that you owned up to it and apologized shows that you are a good person.  Not everyone is big enough to say "hey I was wrong I'm sorry"....and I'm sure they have done or said things they should apologize for.  

I have only been on here for about a week, but I can tell you that in that week I have done a lot of reading.  I havent seen any rude posts, maybe some people saying it like it is, but to me that is what I need to get my arse back on track!  I just think its sad that people have to run their mouths but don't get the WHOLE scoop on things?  I think everyone has been wonderful!

It's on the DS board too...I am sure it is on all of them by now, which explains the wide variety of people responding to the post...

some people just love drama Steph, if they cant find something to ***** about they will create something to ***** about so others can ***** about it also.

There was no sense creating another thread on the subject and what is bad going to another whole different board that has nothing to do with bands to create the thread.

If you have something to say then say it on the board it belongs to dont try to hide it on another board .

I hate it when people do that , but it happens alot around here