Support Group/ Nutritionist Told Not To Say ...............Long

I am confused. if we Brits say chips when you say fries and you say chips when we say crisps... But we say fish and chips when I would expect you to say fish and fries...

what are we talking about here????

Fish and chips - UK style - but don't you call these fries?




What we call crisps but i thought you called chips!





Kate

Hi Kate,

We typically identify what you call chips as fries. EXCEPT when eating as a dinner type meal with fish -- then we call them fish and chips like you do. If the fries are served with any other kind of meat or sandwich, then we call them fries.  : )

Trixie

And that Bette woman accuses us Brits of being "weird" with our language!!! See here, Bette, that is seriously odd!!

Thanks Trixie!  Kate

 I agree with everyone else, she was dead wrong on chastising you for sharing what you ate.  I think that you are an example of why a lot of us chose lap band, because you can eat like a normal person, you just don't eat as much and are satisfied.

I had a very positive experience with the NUT at my surgeons office, although she was tiny she was really great about talking about how to eat like a normal person. The group support class was run by the psychologist and she had had weight loss surgery.  It was really a great way to get initiated in to the band life.  

I think it is sad that the nut is deliberately leading new bandsters down the garden path by censoring the content in the meeting, bad nut.....

Pam

 Hmmm, when I first read your message, I pretty much agreed with everyone else, that your Nut was off base with her reaction.  Then, I saw Kate's post, with pics, and now I have a strong hankerin' for some good ol' Capt D's!  I'm kidding, (and love you, Kate!), but I think that's what the Nut was probably concerned about.  It's not a criticism of you, because obviously whatever you are doing works!  But, some people feel that talking about food in a weight loss support group can be triggering for some people.  

Tami

I didn't think of that, you do have a point.  This is why I posted this.  I get such good insight and things that I just don't think of.  There used to be a person on this forum who posted all these really fattening recipes everyday on this forum.  She drove a lot of people crazy.  Actually now mentioning it she did trigger food urges in me a few times.  Thanks.

Well, my nut has had WLS and she gives advice on how to eat for weight loss, but also understands that an occasional treat is okay too. 
I agree you should speak to the support group nut, but in private (at least you are being classy, unlike her)! 
By the way - I really enjoy your posts and I love that you keep things real for us all!  It is nice to know the truth and know that others are just as human as we are! 

 I think it would be very HELPFUL to let newbies know that they can EAT normally just like skinny folks ONCE THEY REACH GOAL, who wants to eat cottage cheese and bean dip for life...lol. you being at GOAL and eating what you want is what everyone wants...lol. As long as you don't eat that every day that should be ok, heck I go out to eat out every weekend just had ribs and baked sweet potato and cole slaw and key lime pie over with hubby, the only difference is that I could only eat small portions, that is what I got the band for. I would not go back, I would find another support group.

I'm disappointed the nut didn't seize on the main point of your lunch and use it to be helpful.  At 5+ years out the hardest thing is still what to do when you have very limited options (ie "How to make the Best of Bad Choices").  The worst thing about flying as a bandster is the crappy food choices at the airport.  I always bring protein bars and trail mix with me but we are usually travelling for 12+ hours with layovers, etc and I want some "real" food too.  Thick crust pizza and week-old hot dogs aren't exactly ideal band food.  A support group discussion of what to do when the options suck would have been really useful to a lot of people.

That said, as you've pointed out the nut was concerned about the pre-ops who only heard "I can eat fish and chips" and not the rest of the story.  Still, she totally blew a teachable moment.