Nervous Wreck Over Upcoming Vacation

Good Evening,

I need some suggestions.  I'm starting to panic about my upcoming vacation.  DH and I fly to Florida on Sunday and on Monday we leave for a 10 day Caribbean cruise.  I am so nervous about staying on track while I'm gone.

It's actually not the traveling itself that's worrying me, it's traveling with my husband.  I've had great luck on cruises with my eating and usually lose.  I was just on a 29 day cruise with my mother in November/December and I lost weight, probably more than I would have at home.  In fact, the only cruise I've gained on recently was the last one I went on with my husband.

Here's the problem in a nutshell.  DH is a bad influence!  He was banded two weeks before me and had one fill last August.  He is doing things his way.  He is still losing because for the most part he sticks to the rules, or at least his version of them.  The thing is that his mindset is that "I'm on vacation and want to enjoy myself so I'm going to eat what I want."  I'm more the opposite, more like "I have to be extra careful because I'm not preparing the food."

It's tough because now I have to sit through dinner while he has every course.  Then of course he'll want to go to the buffet late at night or in the afternoon and he wants company.  It's so hard to sit there and watch him eat, especially if it's stuff I really like.  Then he'll start with the have a little bit, you're on vacation crap and it makes it that much harder to not give in.

It's also tough because I'm a stress eater.  I find traveling with my husband to be stressful because we have very different travel styles.  He wants to be on the go 25 hours a day, I like to relax and take things slowly.  So on a sea day I might be reading a book and enjoying looking at the ocean and he'll want to go do something.  If I say "no" then he gets all grumpy and can't understand why I don't want to do it because "you aren't doing anything".  Well yes, I am, I'm reading a book and chilling out.  Then he likes to stay up really late on vacation and I turn into a pumpkin at 10.  And I really do need to go to bed.  It sure is not pretty if I don't get my sleep.

So any suggestions on how to stay strong and stay motivated?  I really do not want to get off track.  I'm really afraid that I'll give in when he starts to tempt me with stuff.  Any ideas?

Thanks,
Wendy

Sounds insuperable! Divorce? Separate holidays????

Or more seriously,, how about a his day and a hers day. One day he chooses everything, the next you do.

Kate

Thanks Kate,

I like the idea of taking turns picking the activities.  I'm even fine if we do different things at the same time, but he likes to be joined at the hip while we're away LOL.  As for separate vacations, we do that at times.  I travel a lot with my mom because she still loves to travel but can't go by herself anymore.  We'll also split up and each take one kid because our kids have such different interests that trying to plan something for the two of them is really tough.

Now that I have a plan for managing the activities without stress, I just need to come up with a strategy for not giving in when he tempts me with food.  I wonder at times if he is doing it subconsciously because  I may soon be passing him on the scale.  For our entire married life (22 yrs.) I've always been heavier tha he is even if only by a few pounds at times.  Ugh,, it's going to be hard not giving in and eating with him.

Wendy

You could opt for seperate seatings, lol.  I haven't been on a cruise since banding, but sitting through all the courses at dinner could be a challenge...they could just take away the plates quickly or maybe just order a special plate for yourself with a little of everything on it.  I bet the maitre'd could help you with that...

Hey, I like that: separate seatings Taking the plates away shouldn't be a problem, they're usually pretty good.  Plus I order just what I want.  The problem will be sitting through the appetizer, soup and salad while waiting for my entree.  Then there is the dessert afterwards.  Sitting through dessert wouldn't be that bad if I could drink.  I could nurse a cup of coffee while he eats.  The only saving grace this time is that we will be sitting with other people so at least I'll be able to talk while he's eating LOL.  The other good thing, for me, is that he still eats way too fast.  The other option, but I don't think he'll go for it, is to eat in the buffet some nights.  This way I can have my entree while he has everything else and I eat so slowly we'll be finished at the same time.

Wendy