Need some advice about dating.....

So I havent been on a date in over 2 yrs. I met a really nice guy online and we have been chatting now for four weeks. I keep making up excuses not to meet him because Im still very self concious and Im scared to go out to dinner with him. Is this a sign that maybe Im still not ready to date? I dont know what to do. Hes Italian and always talks about food and what I like to eat so he knows where to take me on our date, Im so confused and not sure what I should do. I cant keep making excuses because Im scared. I finally meet a nice guy and I dont know what to do.....go figure!!! Also hes seen a pics of me from the waist up hasent seen a full body but I think he has the wrong impression of me because he calls about the same time everyday which is when Im working out. Hes in very good shape so I dont know if he thinks Im in good shape or what.....any advice would be appreciated

My advice?  Be honest -- tell him your nervous and explain about the food/eating deal.Espeically the eating because as a bandster we eat enough different that people WILL notice. It's much easier to tell all this up front than it is to get all involved and then before you know it -- it's never a good time to bring it up. If he doesn't accept you than tough for him. Chances are good that he might be very understanding and supportive since he's gotten to know you pretty well over your chats and is really wanting to take you someplace special complete with all the foods you like : )

good luck!

Trixie

I was thinking the same thing. I just need to be honest with him and like you said if he doesnt understand or like it than at least I know now. Im just not sure how to bring it up to him......but I cant put it off any longer!

Thanks Trixie!

Go, be yourself, and if he is the great guy you think he is, he will see you for the beautiful person that you are.

Bet he isn't perfect either, and you might both fine love in spite of your flaws.

Go for it!

 The quicker you meet, the better!  It's easy to connect with someone online, and it's a great way to get to know that person, so that when you meet fact-to-face, you at least have something to talk about!  But the real challenge is seeing whether your expectations and his are a match.  Be confident, and go forward!

Tami

I say be honest and up front.

I have been in the same boat as you recently.  I have gone out with a few good guys and I have to be honest. I am so much more comfortable being honest even though it maybe weird because then you don't worry about how fast or slow you eat while you are  out. They understand where you are coming from and they don't think you are the girl who picks at a salad because she is on a date and not being yourself.  They also don't try to tempt you because they get the commitment you have made to your self. 

Let me know how it goes.

Thanks everyone! Im gonna talk to him tomorrow about it. I will let you all know how it goes!