Wish people would stop hating on the band

 

I'm so glad things are going so well for you, but pray tell where should those of us not having such a successful journey go?  Should I crawl up and die in a corner somewhere?


Thank you for bringing that up. It does seem as though those of us who need support the most are the ones that they don't want to hear from on this forum..........OUR forum!

I have received so much more support concerning my band issues with those NOT on the band forum! That being said........there are also some sweet, warm wonderful ppl on here!

I seriously wonder where I'm supposed to turn. 

Honestly, take what you like and leave the rest.  There have always been surgery bashers and there always will.  I've made some amazing friends here and I've taken some of those friendships off the boards.  There are going to be people here and on the other boards who will support you, just ignore or block the people you don't want to hear from.  I don't think I've ever blocked anyone although there are a few here that have tempted me.  Mainly I'll either call them out on their bull**** or just move on and let them believe their fairytales.

Good luck, we are here for you.

Funny you should say that.  I've got about 8 people blocked and all but one are from the band board.

Luckily I have found supportive boards, but they have a multitude of surgery types.  Sometimes I wish I could post about my struggle with the band without being told that essentially it is me that has failed-not the mechanical piece I've added to my body.  And no, I'm not one of those that thought the band would do all the work for me .

Don't worry about little ole me...I'll be fine.

Hugs! I know what u mean.

Some of it i do honestly beleive is unintentional by other bandsters. They were told all u have to do is get fills and follow the band rules and it works. They beleive this is true. So they don't understand why we come on here and say the things we do. The ones that have breezed through this successfully probably don't see why it's not working for us.

Then there are the ones that it's not working for. Had the band a yr. or more and it does NOT work. But they keep being told they just need to give the band more time............so they beleive that................and can't understand why we don't want to waste more time on it.

Then u have the newbies that have has theirs just a few months and they LOVE their band! They may have just lost the weight they have b/c of the pre-op diet and the liquid/mushy diet after surgery................but they beleive their band will work.

For those of us that are more realistic than some of those ppl............those of that that have problems............those of us that see ppl posting on the forum all the time that haven't lost or have lost just small amounts..............There doesn't seem to be much support for us on THIS forum!

i came here for support but don't think i will get much there are so many mean  people on here

I'm a newbee about 5 weeks..love everything about my weight loss so far.. In reading the post I got sick and tired of the same boring people unhappy with their life bash over and over and saying the same thing, I learned that you can just block them so when you see there names..click the switch...good luck with your band. I congratulate you on your weight loss.

Whoa...

Why is a simple thread that was started as a plea for people to NOT be negative turned into a cat fight of epic negativity?

Everyone here has to weigh their own pro's and con's and do their own homework -- if they do not or do not care to hear that of others, I do not see why people are challenging them as if this is a fight. The namecalling is just silly.

I'm assuming everyone here is coming from a place of good intentions, but I happen to know this thread is hurting some people's feelings -- so chill out, please. If we really care about people continuing to come to this site, we should not treat each other like crap.