Discipline After Bypass Surgery!

Good Morning OH Family Neighbors I am now 28 months post-op and I am having the hardest time with discipline. I have got to be the worse. When I was a young girl, my Dad was VERY strict about our weight. He was so strict that every Sat. morning after he was up, he would make us get on the scale to weigh in. If we gained any weight, we would get a paddling for each pound we gained. I'm guessing that is one reason why I had been over weight all of my life. He died at the early age of 41 and I was just 15. From there my weight just shot up and up to a high of 347 pounds. When I was able to get away with it, I would sneak off to the store and buy a box of cereal or candy and over indulge when I was alone. As I got older depression set in and of course I would eat to help cover it. Now and for many years I do what I want to do. Don't ever tell me NO and that I cannot do something. Because that's when I'll do it just because I can. I don't have anyone around telling me I have to exercise. Then again, if I did have someone making me, I would probably get very aggressive. I always use the excuse that my knees are bone too bone and have to have two total knee replacements and therefore I cannot go out and just even walk. I am here to admit I NEED DISCIPLINE!!! I need and want help. Now where do I start?? I can't do it alone. Because if I even tried, I know I would not stick with it. I'm not a lazy person. I do chores around the house all day off and on. But if it came to leaving the house to go and do something consisting of any exercise, forget it!!! Don't count me in. Anyone out there with any suggestions? I honestly want to change my way of discipline and I am crying out for help!!! Thanks in advance and hope you all have a blessed day....... Group Hugs, Dee

Bless your heart!! I really don't have any advice, just sympathy!! I understand completely about needing discipline. I am 14 months out and doing well, but need to be exercising more than I do and drinking more water than I do... I don 't "dump" with sweets or fats, so I have a VERY hard time staying away from too much chocolate. I hope to talk to the Psych Dr. at my surgeons office and see if he has any insight. Maybe you should try to find one to talk to. Sounds like you may have some pretty tough "issues" related to your dad!!! Anyway, hope things get better for you soon. Hugs, hugs, hugs, Pam

Thanks Pam, I did have a lot of issues with my dad, but just last year after him being gone (deceased) for 22 years, I finally forgave him. That in itself was very hard for me to do and I wi**** had not taken me all those years to finally forgive and move on. Now I have the discipline to work on. I just hope it does not take me 22 years to do that .... LOL I know about three days out of the month on how hard it can be with the chocolate issue. I have atleast two of anything chocolate when mother nature is on her visit .... lol I just make darn sure I do not over indulge. I hope everything goes well with your visit to the Doctor. I'll keep you in thought Group Hugs!!! Dee