Update from Frances, seeking advice

Hello Bayou Buddies, I'm joining the ranks of us searching and seeking answers. I have no reason to throw in the towel on this journey other than the thought that maybe I should be concentrating my efforts on my daughter and what's best for her. I've updated the blog with the latest on surgery No. 5 and what's possibly becoming the issue for surgery No. 6 (since wls). I get a set of staples out tomorrow. I would really love to hear from those of you *****ad the blog. I do believe I'm at a crossroads of some sort in: "The Morning After - Whose Journey is This Anyway" http://www. francesspencer.blogspot.com Onward (sluggishly) Frances

Hi, Frances! I read your blog for the first time this morning. Now that I have found it I will make sure to check back often for updates. You're a funny girl, Frances and I mean that in the best of ways. I really enjoyed reading your blog. Crossroads...we have all been there, they aren't pleasant things to come across for sure. Mine will be when (if) my insurance finally agrees to support my need for wls. THEN and only THEN will I finally be able to have a choice in this decision. To have the surgery...or to not have the surgery. Hmmm...I am seriously (99.9%) leaning toward surgery. The other 0.1% tells me...do you really want to do this... You have had a harder time than most in your first months after wls with the added assault on your body from hernia repairs/infections. Your body hasn't really had a chance to heal and move on to enjoying the slimmer and hopefully healthier you. And now the docs who were supposed to have all the answers are churning out different answers than before the wls. Who can we trust if not the ones who are supposed to have all the answers? Ourselves. You just continue to take care of yourself and your little one the best that you know how. I hope that everything will start to look up for you and that your incision will begin to heal and you can start to live life without anticipation of the next surgery to come. Now, I need to shut up and quit being long winded this early morn. I guess it is because the kids are not here right now to stimulate me so I have to express myself here. Anyways.... Take care and hope to hear from you soon! T--resa

Hi T--RESA i'm from ST. LANDRY to hope we can keep in touch.

Hi, Ida! Where in ST. Landry do you live? Maybe we can get together sometime. I am looking for all the wls buddies I can find. Take care! T--resa

Frances: I just read your blog. I wanted to let you know that I'll be praying for you. Think of how much harder your recovery from those other surgeries would have been if you hadn't lost those 70-80 lbs. Your little girl is beautiful and I love her name. Cecilia and Grace are both names that run in my family. When my children (I have two) were young and in school, I hated to go to school functions because I was so heavy, and felt everyone was thinking negatively about me. I would love to have gone on more of their field trips with them, but my thoughts on my weight held me back. I feel like I missed a lot because I didn't want to go anywhere. Now my kids are grown and have kids of their own. I have 6 grandchildren ranging in age from 10 months to 10 years. The 4 oldest live nearby and are always asking if I can go on field trips or to their ballgames. So, even before I had the surgery, if my work schedule permits, I go. I got tired of missing out on life, heavy or not. Your beautiful little girl will be in school soon and you will be facing those same issues. It's nice when they can fit on the school bus seat with you. So please don't give up and keep thinking positive about your lap band. Maybe you can't see it now, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel and your weight loss surgery journey will be worth it in the end. Cathy G. 307-highest weight 291-surgery consult 260/203/149???

Hi Fran I also feel like I'm at the crossroads because even though my life has increased tremendously I still feel that I have a long ways to go. Therefore, I try to take everything in good stride and believe the god has a ultimate purpose. I believe that since you have gotten all of your surgeries out of the way you will definitely be able to re- focus and as your health increases you will be victorious in all your weight loss struggles. Best wishes. Fred

Hi Frances it's been a long time i will be reading on what's been happening on you hope you are fine.Please tell me what going on with SUE Ella.I'LL be writing you after i read and catch up.