PLEASE HELP !!!!!

I have looked over the post and I have started to think that maybe this is to hard. The eating and the pills and the shakes the dumping! Does this ever end ? Can you ever start to be normal? There are so many risks and draw backs. with all all the down sides its making me really rethink some things but i am also on the flip side wanting this! i am tired of being fat. So I dont know. but I am not sure i can do this! help! does it ever get any easyer is it misory? If so for how long? i feel like i am failing before i even get started! :help::help::help::help::help::help::help::help::help::help::help::help:

Read my profile......I have been thru a lot! It was tough for me at times, but it is soooooo worth it to me. To me..... I would do this over again tomorrow if I had to!! Things will normailize in time....don't think of it as pills, etc. Think of it as a new beginning! Lindy

Lindy is right! Even though some of us go through really rough times, we would never undo what has been done! I would do it again in a heartbeat. My life has changed so dramatically and I live life to it's fullest now. Food no longer controls my life. I control my world instead. Take each day as it comes. Enjoy that day and don't worry about tomorrow 'til it arrives. I am almost ten months out from surgery. Life does normalize after awhile. I rarely dump anymore and my food intake has increased slightly but not enough to make me start to gain. The only pills I take are vitamins and an ulcer medicine which eventually I should be able to get off from. There isn't much that I can't eat. Drats! I prayed that I wouldn't be able to eat sugar but alas I can. The only food that really bothers me is regular ice cream. That tears me up! But Fat Free or Low Fat Ice Cream is fine, and better for me anyhow! Anyhow, chin up and keep smilin'. The journey is worth the trip to get to your destiny. There is no one that I have ever met in my journey who has wished to go back and undo their surgery. The temporary tough times have been well worth the end result of a happier, healthier me! Peggy B. P.S. Hi, Lindy! Sorry I haven't called you. Time slips by so quickly these days. If you're ever in town on a Wednesday, give me a holler. I get together with three other friends and we go out to lunch on that day. Sometimes we even do a little shopping after! We'd love to have you join us!

Mike, First off you need to get a consultation. Different physicians have different requirements. My physician required a complete physical, chest x-ray, labworIk, a psych eval and a consult by a nutritionist. I was fortunate enough to know this ahead of time and had the psych eval and nutritional eval scheduled the same week of my eval with my surgeon. About 2 weeks later, after all my paperwork, evals had been submitted to him, he submitted to my insurance and within 2 weeks after that I had a surgery date for two weeks after that. My surgery was on July 12th. Some physicians put you on a clear liquid diet up to two weeks prior to surgery, some physicians dont. Did I follow it... No and I am sorry that I didnt -- I did FOLLOW it precisely 3 days prior to surgery because I was scared of what may happen if I didnt. The procedure took a few hours and I was in recovery. I had my surgery on 07/12 and was home on 07/14 after lunch. On Wednesday of my surgery I had nothing but morphine, which really wasnt necessary and IV Fluids. On Thursday I had a BARIUM swallow test to make sure my new pouch didnt have any leaks. On Thursday after the test which showed no leaks, I got to take a few sips of water... When that was tolerated I could take in more water only -- I was walking by Thursday at lunchtime... On Friday I got broth and jello in the am and when I tolerated that I got to go home... I take a multivitamin 2 times a day -- calcium citrate once a day and prevacid once a day. AT first when I came home, I could BARELY get in 12 oz of water in ONE day -- it was difficult -- but as the time passed it became easier to get more liquids in -- It was difficult but its all about training the body and yourself -- About 7-10 days later I could get in about 2-16 oz of water a day -- In two weeks I was put back on protein shakes, which in my opinion the LOW CARB SLIM FAST chocolate is DREAMY good....I then advanced to pureed -- I experienced dumping and ONCE you experience it, you will do EVERYTHING in your power to NEVER dump again -- I ASSURE you!!! I have begun to live normally as far as eating -- I should have advanced to soft foods but because of a bad experience 2 weeks ago with dumping I have stayed at pureed food for now -- Mike, it certainly does get better.... I have to tell you that I feel BETTER than I have ever felt in my entire life -- this was and is the BEST decision I have ever made in my entire life -- I am full of energy and go to the gym at least every other day, but am trying everyday -- I eat in VERY SMALL quantities but am FULLY satisfied.... I drink lots of water and have lost 20 inches TOTAL in 30 days and 32 lbs.... that is DEFINITELY A "WOW" moment.... if I must say so.... Mike, be brave... and remember this is CERTAINLY going to change your life for the better.... I assure you of that.... Stephanie

Hi...welcome aboard! Feel free to read my profile too! I would do it all over again in a heart beat! I'm a little over six months out, lost 107 so far. If I would have been exercising like I should have been, I probably would have lost more by now. But anyway, yes...u dump...yes....have to live off of protien...take tons of pills...sometimes lose your hair, etc. BUT...its so worth it to me!!! My goal was to stop taking insulin....I'm off of it! That is the best feeling in the world. I was taking 3 shots a day, now NONE! I'm healthier for my children and that is so important, because I'm a single parent and basically all they have to depend on. And as far as pain goes, I barely had any! I would recommend the RNY to everyone! Yea, the first few weeks, it's a life changing experience, but like I've said, it's so worth it! Good Luck and Don't Give Up

Hi, if your tired of being fat, your in the right place, once all the weight starts falling off , you will not think food is so important, but do what the doc tells you to do!, you can do it, you won't fail!!!!!! rhonda 293/182/140

Keep in mind that just because these things can happen doesn't mean they will happen to you. I have not dumped at all, the only thing I have trouble eating is bread, and sugar and deep fat fried food and thats just because it makes me throw it back up. I do not get the hot flashes, dizziness or sick for an hour thing tho. I eat just about anything else that sounds good! I keep it good for you food tho. Shakes? Not a problem. I do one a day now. At first I did three, but now I do one, I get the rest of my protein from food. Good luck! Cindee

Mike, I just posted to your other post. Again feel free to read my profile. I can honestly say I have had -0- problems. For me this has been so easy. I am one of the very lucky ones. I had a great surgeon, great support team, very positive attitude. I also had the Lord by my side. I prayed so hard about this whole thing. I take less pills than I did prior to surgery. Only my vitamins and calcium! This is no big deal. I have never dumped, felt extremely bad once and I guess that might have been a dumping syndrome. I ate some stuff that I found out had a lot of sugar in it. I really watch my labels, not a bad thing, it has taught my kids to do the same. I have given up all sugar, that in itself is a great complishment for me. I was truely addicted to sugar. I ate a box of Little Debbies every night. I was terrified of giving up my comfort food. It has been 8 months that I have been free of this addiction. Mentally I am happier than I have been for a long time. When your teenager tells you Mom you are the mom I remember you to be, you are so much happier now. That made it all worth it. To me there were many more issues with being overweight, they far outweigh the problems that you have post op. See if you can go to some support meetings. Are you having your surgery in Monroe? See if they have support meetings at the hospital that you can attend. Here in Shreveport both Doctors Hospital and Schumpert offer support group meetings. I have been going to my surgeons meetings however last month I attended Schumperts. Most people were post-op but there were a few that were thinking and wanting to gather as much information as possible. This is great way because you are talking with people that have had the surgery. Stay away from discussing the surgery with those that don't know anything about it. They always know someone that has died or had complications. It might be their brothers, sister in laws, mother's, best friends, ex husband's, sisters, great aunt's neice that had it done. But in other words talk with people that have experienced this first hand. You need to research the fire out of this. Wishing you the best. Jodi

I know that all of the other replies have been from those that have had RNY but have you considered having the lap band? The risk of complications is fewer, there is no dumping, no pill-popping for life, etc. I am almost a year out and lead a normal life. I eat what I want to (with a few exceptions) and I'm 1 pound shy of losing 90 pounds. Yes, the weight loss is slower but it's still weight loss. Please feel free to view my profile and stats and take into consideration the lap band. Good luck! Tricia 274/185/160

Mike, I completely agree with the post above me. You may want to consider Lap Band if it's the complications and all that worry you. I had the same worries and figured out that slower was ok if I was more comfortable with the procedure. I will be banded 08/21 and could not be more excited or scared Both surgeries require life changes they are just different types of changes for each procedure. Good luck and keep me posted on your journey. We are ALL rooting for you!