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Well i am 26 and I am married and I am also father of 2 little boys. And I have been fat all my life and I despretly want to know what it feels like to be thin but I am so very scared to be thin and eat less becouse this is such a huge change ! My wife is a great person and i want her to be proud of her husband and I also want my kids to be proud of their father. I have dreams of spending time with my sons playing outside running biking camping and at this time all they can do is come and lay on their daddy's belly. I am tired of dodging places with arms on the chairs. ( we all been there right !!! ) i have so many dreams I want to achive but I can't becouse of my weight. IAM SO SCARED YALL !! I have always been the type not to need help or support but I have decided with this life change I need help. I am so scared i will talk myself out of this! I am so scared to die from this surgery. I know if I talk myself out of this I will only grow bigger and bigger and then die at an early age. I do have an appointment on Sept. 12th with the Dr. he seems to think I will not have an issiue, but that is the day we sit down to talk.It is also the day of my sons birthday( is this an omen? ) I will keep you guys up dated as much as possiable i am looking forward to your support !!

Do it!!!!!!!!!!! I did and it was the best thing that I ever did for myself. I had WLS 11-17-06 and I've lost 101 pounds. My nine month anniversary is next Thursday 8-17. With 101 pounds gone I can do things I haven't done in so long. Took my daughter school shopping and walked the whole mall and then went to several other stores. I had made my kids a promise that this summer I would take them to a water park. So July, while in Destin went to a huge water park and stayed on the beach, haven't done that in years. It is scary, but worth it in the long run. Good luck and I'm sure once you have the surgery you will be glad you did. Tina M P

Mark, It is a scarey feeling but I have to tell you it is the most wonderful thing in the world to be able to enjoy your kids, play and not get tired with your kids, see the scale move lower and lower every morning, have energy every day and begin to feel VERY GOOD about yourself. I was extremely scared but now that I am 30 days post op, I feel MAGNIFICENT!! I would recommend this procedure to EVERYONE who is morbidly obese. Its a new life... Its a new beginning... its a new journey... DO IT !!! Stephanie

I can tell you this, I fell sooooo much better now, and its only been 3 1/2 mos for me since surgery. I have lost about 70 lbs so far, and I feel wonderful. I can now climb up in the stands, I mean way up, to watch my son play football. This is the best thing I ever did for me. DO IT. you will not regret it at all. Cindee

Hi Mike and welcome to the board. Thank you for sharing your story. Yes, it is very scary I have been there as so many people have. I am now 8 months out as of today and I have lost 80lbs and I am at my goal. I am considered a light weight. I had health issues and I am so happy that I had the surgery. If I had not, I would have kept gaining weight and would have ended up having more serious issues. Seems you always hear about the negative of the surgery you know the 2% but you don't seem to hear about the 98% that have done wonderful. I am healthy, and so happy with the decision that I made. Was it easy? Yes and no! I can promise you if you can do this with a positive attitude you will do fine. You see I feel attitude plays a big part in the healing process and the success. You know last week I took my son to a new school, we had a parent meeting for football. I walked in there with my head up I walked to the front of the auditorioum and found a place to sit. In the past I would have sat on the back row. I was not ashamed of myself like I had been. It was a very good feeling. There are so many positives that come from this surgery. Take that date of Sept 12 and think of it as the begining of a new life for you and your son. Wishing you the best, Jodi

Mike, I know having this surgery is scary but it is so worth it. Also, the sooner you have it the better. It is better to have the surgery before you gain more weight. I no longer use my cpap machine and no longer take blood pressure medicine. I wish that I would have had this surgery years ago. Good luck! Make sure that you ask the surgeon how much intestine that he bypasses. The more bypassed, the more you will lose. I was bypassed 150 cm but some people are only bypassed 50 or 80cm. Lynn J., lap RNY 9/29/04 5' 4" 306/146/135

Hello Mike and welcome to the board. Your fears are very normal I think most of us have had them. I was terrified of leaving my son behind, but the fact that if I didn't change something I would leave him anyway made me go ahead and do it. To me the good out weighed the bad. And it was the best decision of my life!! I can do so much more with him now that I couldn't do before. When he says you wanna race I can and not be out of breath. But before I wouldn't even bother racing because my knees would give out and I would fall. I can't tell you to do it because it has to be your decision, but I can tell you that I would do it again in a heartbeat. Everything about my life is better. I can sit in chairs with arms and not get stuck (yes I've been there) I can actually go to the amusement park and ride rides with my son, something I could not do before because I didn't fit. You know what is best for you and you will make the right decision. Just know that all the support you need is here. Good luck!!! Tina 336/185/155