Depression and stuff

Hello all..today has been a rough day. I'm sick. I have kind of virus and it's currently sitting on my chest. I've all day, when I wasn't coughing that is...anyways, I just wish I didn't feel so down. My spouse and I had a bit of a bad arguement yesterday and even though I am sure we are both past it, he wasn't real thrilled that I got that big envelope from Georgetown today. He didn't say anything but I've a feeling in the back of his mind he's thinking again that I shouldn't do it. I'm hoping he'll get over it soon. I really do need his support with this. I'm sure that once spring has started and the air is clean and new he'll change his mind. Oh well..I'm still going to do it. I have to do it for me. If he gets all tore up over something then let him. I have to do this. Sorry folks..I had to get that off my chest..

Mary you are sooo right it has to be for YOU. I think that is so important. He will most likely come around. You can show him the spouse's message board. That ease some of his fears. Fear is the reason many people do not want someone they love to have this surgery. It is MAJOR surgery. try to talk to him and ask why he is so against it, it may just be that he is afriad of losing you during surgery or after a become a Hot Mama as my friend says!! try to rest and get to feeling better. Many people around this area are sick. Our county school system which is a small, rural system ( about 2300students total) had 200 students out yesterday!! YUCK- Blessings Tonya

it's been a blast around here..400 students and 20 teachers out here yesterday..school is closed the rest of the week. We have a couple here in town that are close family friends of ours. They had the RNY done last May. They've done great with it. She was just talking to me via IM and she said that RNY would be better because Lap Band doesn't always work. So that has me thinking what do I do now. I was kind of up for the Lap Band..and she's telling me to go RNY. Who knows now..So I will research ST. Joe's program and doctors. Talk to her some more..sign up for group meetings and maybe get the ball rolling on it. I'm glad I have somewhere to post about it..I'm so glad I found this place. mary

WOW that is alot of sick people!! I have a friend who had lap band done in July. She has lost 55 lbs. For her it was fine. For me it would not have worked. One day while we were talking about me having surgery she asked me, You are seating down to eat you can pick the dessert or the meat & veggies, what would you pick?? Well the sweet stuff of course, was my reply. Debbie told me that is why the lap band would not be good for me. With the lap band you are allowed to eat all things you have always ate, only smaller portions of course. With most RNY patients sugars cause "dumping" severe cramps and that is followed by...lets just say it is coming out one end or the other!! I do not know what your eating habits are, but this is just more info for you to think about. I hope you get this process started soon. My Dr. requires you be off 8 weeks with open RNY & 6 weeks Lap RNY. Maybe you could have surgery while your school is on summer break. Recovery has not been as fast as I would like. LOL As my family has reminded me I'm not as young as I use to be!! My surgery was 12-28-04. I went back to work yesterday. Half days this week and then next week look out, I will be one tried momma!! Keep checking out the web, ask people questions, it all helps. Also the main message board is very busy!!! you will find lots of helpful information there. Ok I have rambled on enough. Blessings to you on this new journey. Oh, I forgot to ask what county has called off school. We are Hart Co in the central part of the state. Later tater Tonya

oh Mary i pray your husband comes around and supports you on your decision. you are right you have to do this for you and your health. keep smiling rhonda

Hi Mary,I was in the same place you are. My DH didn't like the idea either, then I found the Gallery and before and after photos I began looking there and showing him what a difference it has made in these peoples' lives Then we attended a seminar by my surgeon, Dr. D. Blaine Nease, and both he and I were sure this is for me. Dr. Nease seems to be so concerned about the lives of overweight people. He changed his practice to 100% bariatric surgery. I am so confident in my decision and so is my husband This is all I think about from the time I get up until I go to bed. Get him involved with this Once he sees and understands that living with sicknesses is worse than having the surgery. I am 52 as of Tuesday,the 7th, and I would never have thought I would be in this shape today. You know the old saying "if I knew I was going to live this long, I would have taken better care of myself."hahahaha So just pray, get well, and be positive about it and he will come around. And yes, you do have to do this for yourself. If you think you are depressed now, just stop thinking about having this surgery, that is when depression will set in. I know, I tried that too. When I said to myself, no I just won't have this done, even had to cancel my first consultation visit, I cried, all day long. I got sooooooo depressed. I am bipolar anyway. So we can't live for our husband, or our children, or our parents, or for anyone else but ourselves. Just like we answer for no one except ourselves. So no one can make our lives better for us except, US. We have to live with our decisions, and believe me, the decisions I have made in the past have not been very good ones, so to me this is going to be a whole new change and a whole new life. WE DESERVE IT. Keep in touch I care Judy Morris

Thanks ya'll..I've been thinking all day about the kind of eater I am.. So here is a list of eating habits I have. 1. I'm an emotional eater..if I'm happy I eat..if I'm upset I eat. If I'm depressed I eaet..you know what I mean.. 2. I eat out of boredom..plain and simple. 3. I love chocolate.. seriously addicted to the stuff..back at Christmas time I was eating it alot every day..bad me. 4. I do eat alot of healthy stuff..but in large amounts... So as far as I can tell I should probably have the RNY..for the main fact that if soemthing is causing me to dump, I will probably not eat it again for a long time. That happened when i found out I had Celiac Sprue.. I quit eating pretty much everything for a while and was barely eating enough to keep me from passing out..that's how little I had been eating. But now things don't bother me like before..and I'm back to eating everything I was before..So I know what will happen if I eat the wrong things, been there done that..I just have to keep reminding myself of that when the time comes to decide which surgery to have.. Mary