Hardest Thing I have Ever Done in My Life

Hi All, I just need to vent to my family if you do not mind. Going into this surgery I knew that it would not be easy. I did lots of research and went to support groups and read articles and looked at TV shows that talked about it. In doing all of this and knowing the risk and the life altering change I still felt the need to have this surgery, this was something I wanted to do without fail. However although I do not regret having the surgery nor can I yet say I would do this again, I just need to keep it real when I say that having this surgery was the hardest thing I have ever had to do and maintain in my life. Without the sole support of my new best friend Lisa Cohen and my longtime friendship with Lisa Dunlap, I have no idea what I would do. Lisa Cohen and I had our surgeries about 2 weeks apart so the things I am going through now she is so helpful with, my day does not feel complete unless I talk to her. Lisa Dunlap is almost a year out and she gives me that energy and the reassurance that things will definately get better. I said all of that to say this when you are going through this, it is so important to have someone to support you. My husband and my best friend Lea and my sister Rochelle are all having this surgery and I am so glad that I am the Guinea Pig of the circle, because when they have surrgery they will have all of me. I will have already worked the kinks out for them, I will be there to help them from day one, I will be able to encourage them when they go through the depression and the battles of what to eat and what not to eat.. This is a remarkeable journey that all of the post ops have began and all of the pre ops are thinking of taking, it requires hard work and determination and most of all support from someone who understands and is willing to be there for you when you need them. This message board is such a great place to come and read and get advice, sometimes it can be a little intimidating on the main board because people will just beat you down and make you feel bad about your questions. Just thought that I would let all of you know that we are all in this together, weither i know you or not I plan to be an advocate and a great support person for anyone that needs me, I call people on a daily basis, i send numerous emails daily and I call my Lisa C. daily to see how her day is, this surgery is life altering for me and i intend to be as supportive as i can to anyone that just wants to talk. You can email me directly at [email protected] and I will take your number and give you mine and just know that I am here for you all, anytime of the day and night, because i do not want anyone to feel they are alone. This is a winning battle, not one without a strong and hard fight. I just want you all to know that support is the key to success. I hope that i have not offended anyone with what i have said, it was never meant to come out that way. i also want you all to look for regular post from me, because anytime I learn anything new that is helpful I will be on here sharing it. Thanks for listening and good luck to US ALL!!!!!

ADRIENNE GOD BLESS YOU HUN....YOU ARE RIGHT WHEN YOU SAY WE NEED SUPPORT FORM EACH OTHER...AS A MATTER OF FACT YOU SAID IT ALL IN YOUR POST..I HOPE TO SEE YOUR FUTURE POSTS FROM NOW ON..I AM WAITING FOR SURGERY DATE..SHOULD BE SOON AND IM GETTING SCARED... BUT EXCITED... WHERE ARE YOU LOCATED..IM IN SOUTHEASTERN KY..TOWN CALLED BIG CREEK FITTING .....HAHAHAHA... IF WE DONT HAVE OUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS BEHIND US..THEN ITS AN UP HILL BATTLE..BUT IF WE HAVE THOSE THAT WE LOVE AND THAT LOVE US ..BEHIND US..THEN IT MAKES THE HILL A LITTLE EASIER TO CLIMB..RIGHT??? YOU TAKE CARE AND KEEP ME POSTED... YOUR AN IN MY EYES....HUGS FOR NOW...ANNETTE

Hi Annette, I am in Edgewood, Md. I decided to go to every state message board and leave a positive note, because I know personally without my support people I would not make it. Lots of luck to you on your date and please let me know when you get a date, i love hearing and sharing in great moments.

Hi Adrienne, Thanks for the honesty and the words of encouragement. My date is Dec 1 and although I'm excited I'm also nervous. I know this is life changing, part of me wants to be thin and part of me says just stay the way I am and take my chances. I know that is not the way it is though, I want to be thinner than I am right now and wls is the only way it is going to happen. It's just a mind game, but I have to win!! I come on here everyday to see how people are fairing and to learn, learn, learn. I'm a christian and know that all will go according to God's plan but sometimes that little seed of doubt wants to creep in and I can't let it!! Thank you everyone for the posts and sharing your hearts. May God Bless YOU!! Jill

Hi Jill, I can completely understand your fears and concerns, that is why I am out here advocating for support, because it is so needed. I try to be support for as many people as I can, I email people constantly and I call them, i have even offered to call doctors for people. I know how much my support people mean for me and that is why I am adamet about being there for others. Lots of luck to you and just know that I am only an email away and if ever you wanna talk just email me your number and i will call you. Take care and lots of luck to you.