missing in action... time to tell u why..
Well my bari- babes know what is going on.. but I guess it's time to put it out there for all of u..
I get the sweetest pm's, wanting to know how I am and where I went.. so im gonna tell you where I went..
Im getting divorced... Im moving back to my moms with Katelyn and the dog.. and I start a new job monday...
It has been coming for along time.. It isn't my weight loss.. I was seperated when I decided to have my surgery.. he is a good friend and hopefully for the rest of our life will be my best friend... but I dont love him like a husband.. I love him like I love my brother....
The STRESS from it all has caused me to gain 5 pounds from EMOTIONAL eating.. I havent exercised in over two months and that has factored in too..
My band is fine.. Dr. Shina did a EGD to make sure it was ok.. I get a fill july21 and for the first time in almost two years I know I need it!! I feel wide open..
Im on the road to a new start and will hopefully improve my habits a bit.. I plan to start walking today.. even if it's 10 minutes at a time... I do check in here often.. I just dont post alot because I did gain 5 pounds and dont want to discourage people....
there's my history ladies....
I have missed u all!!!!
dawn
I get the sweetest pm's, wanting to know how I am and where I went.. so im gonna tell you where I went..
Im getting divorced... Im moving back to my moms with Katelyn and the dog.. and I start a new job monday...
It has been coming for along time.. It isn't my weight loss.. I was seperated when I decided to have my surgery.. he is a good friend and hopefully for the rest of our life will be my best friend... but I dont love him like a husband.. I love him like I love my brother....
The STRESS from it all has caused me to gain 5 pounds from EMOTIONAL eating.. I havent exercised in over two months and that has factored in too..
My band is fine.. Dr. Shina did a EGD to make sure it was ok.. I get a fill july21 and for the first time in almost two years I know I need it!! I feel wide open..
Im on the road to a new start and will hopefully improve my habits a bit.. I plan to start walking today.. even if it's 10 minutes at a time... I do check in here often.. I just dont post alot because I did gain 5 pounds and dont want to discourage people....
there's my history ladies....
I have missed u all!!!!
dawn
First 80.5 pounds lost with 3cc's in a 14 ccband now at 7cc's in 14cc band
Oh boy do I know what you are going through! my divorce was finalized in November and I moved here to Ky from Washington DC I had never been to Ky before I moved here, talk about change! Its tough but you will make it through and come out the other side with a better life. I truly believe my life is better now and will be a richer more fullfilled experience in the long run. It sounds like you are handling this with grace and strength, I wish I could have handled it that way good for you. Good Luck and Best Wishes for a smooth transition to a brand new life!
You know I love ya Dawn. There's no shame in your game. The people who have not gotten stressed and fallen off the wagon are few and far inbetween. If we don't fess up here then where. My posts are not to discourage people but let them know wls does not make us super people we are still human and prone to error. Your post won't discourage they just enlighten. We don't all have the same disciplinary control so some of us fall more than others but with help we all will get up and get going.
Most of us will always struggle with emotional eating. I am not getting divorced or moving so what's my excuse???? Lifes stressors, children, grandchildren, less money, no insurance, a sick hubby, need I go on. However these things aren't going to change if I eat like it's my last supper so I'm working on exercising my stress away.
Take care, you know I wish you the best of success with your tool, your job and the adjustments in your life. You have always encouraged me the least I can do is give you the same.
Z
Most of us will always struggle with emotional eating. I am not getting divorced or moving so what's my excuse???? Lifes stressors, children, grandchildren, less money, no insurance, a sick hubby, need I go on. However these things aren't going to change if I eat like it's my last supper so I'm working on exercising my stress away.
Take care, you know I wish you the best of success with your tool, your job and the adjustments in your life. You have always encouraged me the least I can do is give you the same.
Z
With 
I will succeed.
HW: 280 - LW: 190 - GW - 180
Unfilled 8/15/11 - WT: 209
1st Fill 11/29/11 - WT: 215.5 - 3cc
2/20/12 - New Goal - Get n Onederland
2nd Fill 4/26/12 - WT: 224.0 - 3cc
Z
Dawn,
we are here for you.
I wish you all the very best in this new chapter in your life. You are a phenomenal woman and will do well.
We understand your absence and we have all been there (with weight gain) or we would not be HERE.
Please come back whenever you are ready; but in the meantime know we are thinking happy positive thoughts for your time of change.
teach / sol!
ps you rock!
we are here for you.
I wish you all the very best in this new chapter in your life. You are a phenomenal woman and will do well.
We understand your absence and we have all been there (with weight gain) or we would not be HERE.
Please come back whenever you are ready; but in the meantime know we are thinking happy positive thoughts for your time of change.
teach / sol!
ps you rock!
Dear Dawn,
You and your daughter Katelyn are in my thoughts I experienced the same thing in 2002, here I had been a married woman living in my own house(well the military owned it but you get my drift) and suddenly my ex-husband basically had a mid-life crisis at 24. He had good reason though (I probably would have gone down every path but the right one also) he had just done a 15 month tour in S. Korea, was home for a week got sent to Ft. Rucker, Alabama for 3 moths, we then got stationed in Ft. Campbell Ky, we were there for 8 months he got deployed again to Kosovo for 13 months came back was home for 2 months and then got shipped to the Iraq conflict we are caught in the middle of now( on my birthday). Come to find out during all of this he had a seperate checking account going and was 100% supporting another woman.
Well needless to say food and sleep became my best friend. I ate and slept slept and ate and went from a nice average weight of 130 to almost 240 in less than three years.
You do have positives going for you a beautiful child, a dog my mom says sometimes dogs are the best listeners cause they don't give advice and don't judge and clearly a immediate family(mom) who wants to open her home to the three of you and love and support and a new job( not that work is the most exciting thing but it should help you focus on something other than the ending of your marriage.
Everyday is a brand new start, you are blessed to have a good relationship with your ex. My husband Pat and I get along very well with my daughter's dad Mark. My husband doesn't refer to him as my ex anymore the other day we were at my husband's company picnic and my husband and his manager were talking military stuff and he kept refering to Mark(the ex) as his good buddy.
Just try to keep a positive outlook and try very hard to love and respect the ex. It will make all 3 of your lives easier. When Mark comes to visit Mollie especially during the school year(he only has Thursday and Friday off) they spend most of their time hanging at our house. WE also try to include him on atleast Thanksgiving
And one last piece of advice( I am sorry this is sooo long) when you begin dating again don't look for your ideal, beautiful man look for someone who can make you laugh till you cry, and who will pull you out of your ruts just buying saying something so completely corny you just want to give him a huge hug. My motto when I was back on the dating scene was that Mollie and I are a package deal and that no matter what she is my be all end all and she comes first and foremost in my life. I would wait a good 2- 3 months before introducing a new man to Katelyn and tell him some of her favorite things to do and let him plan a nice introductory date that revolves around her. And kep reminding him nothing comes before her. You will defintiely be able to weed out the bad guys.
Good luck with everything. I truely wish you love, peace and hapiness.
You and your daughter Katelyn are in my thoughts I experienced the same thing in 2002, here I had been a married woman living in my own house(well the military owned it but you get my drift) and suddenly my ex-husband basically had a mid-life crisis at 24. He had good reason though (I probably would have gone down every path but the right one also) he had just done a 15 month tour in S. Korea, was home for a week got sent to Ft. Rucker, Alabama for 3 moths, we then got stationed in Ft. Campbell Ky, we were there for 8 months he got deployed again to Kosovo for 13 months came back was home for 2 months and then got shipped to the Iraq conflict we are caught in the middle of now( on my birthday). Come to find out during all of this he had a seperate checking account going and was 100% supporting another woman.
Well needless to say food and sleep became my best friend. I ate and slept slept and ate and went from a nice average weight of 130 to almost 240 in less than three years.
You do have positives going for you a beautiful child, a dog my mom says sometimes dogs are the best listeners cause they don't give advice and don't judge and clearly a immediate family(mom) who wants to open her home to the three of you and love and support and a new job( not that work is the most exciting thing but it should help you focus on something other than the ending of your marriage.
Everyday is a brand new start, you are blessed to have a good relationship with your ex. My husband Pat and I get along very well with my daughter's dad Mark. My husband doesn't refer to him as my ex anymore the other day we were at my husband's company picnic and my husband and his manager were talking military stuff and he kept refering to Mark(the ex) as his good buddy.
Just try to keep a positive outlook and try very hard to love and respect the ex. It will make all 3 of your lives easier. When Mark comes to visit Mollie especially during the school year(he only has Thursday and Friday off) they spend most of their time hanging at our house. WE also try to include him on atleast Thanksgiving
And one last piece of advice( I am sorry this is sooo long) when you begin dating again don't look for your ideal, beautiful man look for someone who can make you laugh till you cry, and who will pull you out of your ruts just buying saying something so completely corny you just want to give him a huge hug. My motto when I was back on the dating scene was that Mollie and I are a package deal and that no matter what she is my be all end all and she comes first and foremost in my life. I would wait a good 2- 3 months before introducing a new man to Katelyn and tell him some of her favorite things to do and let him plan a nice introductory date that revolves around her. And kep reminding him nothing comes before her. You will defintiely be able to weed out the bad guys.
Good luck with everything. I truely wish you love, peace and hapiness.
Well, you know I and the rest of the Bariatric Babes stand behind you during your time of change and discovery!
We love ya!
Try not to let the stress get the best of you while you are in the process of defining a new sense of normal for you, Katelyn and Todd.
Don't dwell in the past....the best is yet to be!
We love ya!
Try not to let the stress get the best of you while you are in the process of defining a new sense of normal for you, Katelyn and Todd.
Don't dwell in the past....the best is yet to be!
~BECKA~ Start - 254 / Current - 172.6 / Goal - 160
Just another Bariatric Babe!!
Just another Bariatric Babe!! 
Dawn, I am such a doofus. I had no idea you were going through such a hard time. No wonder you weren't excited about the wedding. I am just listening trying to figure out what is going on. I totally missed that. You have a bunch of changes, but you have all the support you need. I am glad to see that you can say exactly what's going on. I am here for you if you need anything.
Becky in Kentucky
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