need some encouragement again please

I know I am not supposed to fixate on the scale.  But I can't help it.   I am  weighing once a week but I swear I think I am going to be the first person to have rny and fail at the weight loss.  It seems that every where I read or people I hear about have lost 50lbs and more in a couple of months and here I am 6 weeks out and only lost 29lbs.  The first 2 weeks I lost 22lbs the next 2 weeks nothing then 4lbs in a week now 3lbs last week.   I know I know I have lost inches and that is important BUT I need to see some numbers coming down.  I guess even though I said differently time and time again I'm not going to dwell on the number on the scale but you know what I have been over weight so long that it feels GREAT seeing the numbers go down.  I can't help it I'm not going to lie I am upset that I haven't lost anymore.  I don't know what if anything I am doing wrong but I want desperately to see the scale show lower numbers!  I knew it was not going to be a miracle overnight thing but I truly thought it would be a little quicker than this.   I'm not sorry I had the surgery by any stretch of the imagination but come on......a little more please.....I guess thats me want want want....never satisfied....Well I'm sorry I can't help feeling this way.  My head is saying come on now 29lbs and 17" thats awesome...but my heart and my desire along with my impatience is saying COME ON MOVE!!!!!  I know other people have had to feel this way.  Why don't we read more of this instead of people telling us it happens....it will be okay......you'll see it come off more and more....be patient.....its not a cure all....its a tool.....I want someone to tell me how frustrated they were when this happened to them so I know its not just me feeling this way.  Because I am eating the way I am supposed to I am getting my vitamins I am walking and biking and drinking water....so what the heck?!  Oh well I guess thats enough of me venting and whining......

I'm way behind you on the WLS journey so I can't give any advice but I did want to offer you a huge hug.  I have no doubt that if (or when) I am in your shoes I'd feel the same way. I hope you soon see the results your looking for.

Try to stay positive. I'm sure that the members who've been where you are now will have great advice for you that will help you put it all in perspective.

More hugs!

Vickie

Thank you so much Vickie for your thoughts and especially the big hugs....I so needed them.....your time will come before you know it.  Thanks, Donna

awwww Donna don't get down or discouraged..everyone loses at a different rate. I looked back at my journal and I had dropped 50 lbs by month 3..then I didn't lose for several weeks and remember feeling I had failed..then it started again and never stopped going down.  Believe me you WILL lose the weight, it's going to happen no matter what.  So hang in there ...I promise it gets better and before you know it your clothes will be falling off...I PROMISE!!!!!!!
and yes I was doing the same thing you are right now..but I didn't know about OH or even had a surgeon that had a support group or anything else to offer..it wasn't until I was about 16 months out and by then down a total of about 150 lbs when I met Dr. Sonnanstine, got involved in his support groups and with his practice...that I had support when I felt frustrated..but by then I was doing great just had to tweak a few things..I was fine with the 150 lb weight loss...but more came off without me even trying...a total of 165 lbs....so YES..most of us went through the same thing...we just got so happy after the weight loss we forgot how frustrating it really was...you are dong fine, keep drinking..keep walking..stop weighing..lol

I've gotta agree with Brenda - STOP WEIGHING!  lol  I didn't weigh myself for 3 1/2 weeks - I could TELL I had lost a lot of weight those first weeks but I didn't have a home scale that weighed over 350 so I wasn't "tempted" to weigh myself.  When I got to Dr. Shina's office I was so happy - the amount I had lost was actually TOO much - he wasn't happy.  I mean - I couldn't help it - and besides I was really happy about losing it because I felt so good!   But I had to have an upper GI done a few days later because I was losing too fast and that is hard on the body --  hard on our hearts (because it can mean muscle is being lost) and other muscles too - and hard on our HAIR (yep, it's falling out, but I've still got enough).  Losing what you've lost in the short time since your surgery is FINE!  Don't compare yourself to others because we all lose differently.  You may be building muscle and tightening muscles with your walking and exercise and we all know muscle weighs more than fat too!  

I had that really fast weight loss initially and then everything slowed down a LOT.  The past month I pretty much stayed the same (I got a home scale I could weigh on finally).  I didn't weigh myself more than once every 2 weeks though because there are some weeks our bodies are just adjusting to the weight loss and stalling.  Those weeks can be frustrating if we're always hopping on the scale, so just don't do it.   Think about a monthly weigh in and if you're losing 2 or 3 lbs a week that adds up!  And it's so much healthier - your skin will rebound better, etc.

I'm glad you vented and whined - it just means you're just like the rest of us.  We all want it now!  But "Christmas" is just around the corner -just be patient!

Hugs,
Cindy

Everyone loses weight at a different rate. How much protein are you getting in ? If you up that a lil bit then you might just see the scales move in your favor. I have noticed that when my weight loss starts slowing. And if you eat alot of the same foods over and over, it could slow ya up a bit, maybe try some new foods and mix it up a bit.

Hang in there you'll get through this !

You are vvery early out and will lose the weight.  You have no choice but to lose at this point.  Try to be patient and take one day at a time.

You'll look back several months from now and laugh at yourself for thinking you aren't going to lose fast enough.  I know I did!  


Hang in there!
 

You are all great!  And I know what I have lost already is very good....and I am happy its gone for good.  I need to straighten up and fly right and stop worrying about it.  will do the best I can and try to stop worrying every week if the scale doesn't move.  Thank you all for your support and encouragement.  Sometimes I guess you just need to vent and whine a little bit....thanks for listening.....Donna

Still going through it too....but mine drops off at the weirdest times! your scale will move...promise!