Newbies and Oldbies
OK...after a great day with the Indiana people I get to come home and read this. This has snowballed into one big big pain in the rear!
Wendy...I agree...I don't think cliques was the word you were looking for so lets just call it a group. That should rectify that.
Now...as for you going back to just reading...please don't. As Harleymann said...sometimes what we are trying to convey in words is sometimes mis-interpreted because our tone or emotion just cannot be heard. I am one who is guilty of that. I wrote the beginning post full of happiness and encouragement...but apparently some felt it was not conveyed. Ok....my bad. It was meant to be. I read your post and to be honest..I was not sure how to take it. I really would like to see your posts on your husbands progress as well as your own! it is frustrating to go through this alone......
Now...I spoke with a few of Dr S patients as well and I will tell you what i told them. If My Dr went to the lengths and measures or care, concern and professionalism as Dr S, I too would have felt very upset and abandoned...not by him but by the Facility that let him go. I would be frustrated, sad, panicking not to be able to be cared for after the start of a process we started together. I know one of my best friends was cared for by him and he stayed with her during this and in touch with the family afterwards just to let them know he was there for them. In my opinion...he is the bomb. But when the post from Dr Curry hit to inform patients of an option they would have if for some reason they could not continue or follow Dr S....alot of people attacked him. It was just a suggestion of option...nothing more. I also want to clarify myself on Brenda. I think she is an extremely caring person and has the best intentions and does whatever she can to assist people in need. And not just Dr S patients. I understand she was not his employee but played a big part in volunteering to help patients and families who needed support. Do I begrudge her this? No. I commend her for taking time out of her personal life to do so. So hopefully that will clarify how I perceive Brenda.
As for you lovekitten.....I am surprised to see you once again jumping in and making remarks that are just...well I cannot even find the words.....can ya believe that! So...I will just try to clarify your statement.....
Leeann you are the prime example when you broke into several of those conversations with very strong opinions and you had nothing at all to do with what was going on and had no knowledge of any of it. And then to sit here and say how supportive you are...good grief!
I made a statement about Dr C trying to be helpful...see above. Then, several posts later, you came in with remarks that were made by Brenda and accusations of things that one Dr stated about another Dr or their office staff in a pm to me. I had very strong opinions..yes...one of them being that the things you were saying were opening up a lawsuit against YOU for slander among other things! And yes....I have alot of knowledge of the law...thats my job! You on the other hand do not but continued to make remarks and accusations against alot of people that will be coming back to bite you in the butt one way or another. People on here are trying to clarify, rectify, apologize or whatever needs to be done to resolve this matter. Why don't you offer some constructive support to the newbies and post more often....I have never seen you post anything positive on a newbies post yet! Not even a welcome to the board! Be what you want the board to be..welcoming and supportive.
Wendy...I agree...I don't think cliques was the word you were looking for so lets just call it a group. That should rectify that.
Now...as for you going back to just reading...please don't. As Harleymann said...sometimes what we are trying to convey in words is sometimes mis-interpreted because our tone or emotion just cannot be heard. I am one who is guilty of that. I wrote the beginning post full of happiness and encouragement...but apparently some felt it was not conveyed. Ok....my bad. It was meant to be. I read your post and to be honest..I was not sure how to take it. I really would like to see your posts on your husbands progress as well as your own! it is frustrating to go through this alone...... Now...I spoke with a few of Dr S patients as well and I will tell you what i told them. If My Dr went to the lengths and measures or care, concern and professionalism as Dr S, I too would have felt very upset and abandoned...not by him but by the Facility that let him go. I would be frustrated, sad, panicking not to be able to be cared for after the start of a process we started together. I know one of my best friends was cared for by him and he stayed with her during this and in touch with the family afterwards just to let them know he was there for them. In my opinion...he is the bomb. But when the post from Dr Curry hit to inform patients of an option they would have if for some reason they could not continue or follow Dr S....alot of people attacked him. It was just a suggestion of option...nothing more. I also want to clarify myself on Brenda. I think she is an extremely caring person and has the best intentions and does whatever she can to assist people in need. And not just Dr S patients. I understand she was not his employee but played a big part in volunteering to help patients and families who needed support. Do I begrudge her this? No. I commend her for taking time out of her personal life to do so. So hopefully that will clarify how I perceive Brenda.
As for you lovekitten.....I am surprised to see you once again jumping in and making remarks that are just...well I cannot even find the words.....can ya believe that! So...I will just try to clarify your statement.....
Leeann you are the prime example when you broke into several of those conversations with very strong opinions and you had nothing at all to do with what was going on and had no knowledge of any of it. And then to sit here and say how supportive you are...good grief!
I made a statement about Dr C trying to be helpful...see above. Then, several posts later, you came in with remarks that were made by Brenda and accusations of things that one Dr stated about another Dr or their office staff in a pm to me. I had very strong opinions..yes...one of them being that the things you were saying were opening up a lawsuit against YOU for slander among other things! And yes....I have alot of knowledge of the law...thats my job! You on the other hand do not but continued to make remarks and accusations against alot of people that will be coming back to bite you in the butt one way or another. People on here are trying to clarify, rectify, apologize or whatever needs to be done to resolve this matter. Why don't you offer some constructive support to the newbies and post more often....I have never seen you post anything positive on a newbies post yet! Not even a welcome to the board! Be what you want the board to be..welcoming and supportive.
Oh god,
I hope the legal thing is not a reference to me. DId someting happen between Dr S and Dr. C.
I am a Dr. s patient and have never had the pleasure of meeting Dr. C The only othe bariatric docs I have met besides Dr. S are Drs. Brown, Smith and Moon who have taken over Dr. S's old practice and they seem like fine docs. My husband and my 4 other family members just plan to follow him to G.town. Just because we are comfortable with him and it also gives us an opprtunity to hit the outlet malls.
I hope that except for my cliquish and highschool outburst that I have tried to be welcoming and able to give some good advice.
I really wish I could start this week over and had kept my big mouth shut or thought through what my fingers were typing. It may have kept me from losing a lot of on-line friends.
I miss Brenda alot she was always jonny on the sspot when it felt like all was falling down around me.
Should you mail me back that would be great if not I fully understand I was a terrible terrible person this week and don't think I will be forgiven by many posters soon
Thanks and good luck in the fight towards the losers bench,
Wendy
I hope the legal thing is not a reference to me. DId someting happen between Dr S and Dr. C.
I am a Dr. s patient and have never had the pleasure of meeting Dr. C The only othe bariatric docs I have met besides Dr. S are Drs. Brown, Smith and Moon who have taken over Dr. S's old practice and they seem like fine docs. My husband and my 4 other family members just plan to follow him to G.town. Just because we are comfortable with him and it also gives us an opprtunity to hit the outlet malls.
I hope that except for my cliquish and highschool outburst that I have tried to be welcoming and able to give some good advice.
I really wish I could start this week over and had kept my big mouth shut or thought through what my fingers were typing. It may have kept me from losing a lot of on-line friends.
I miss Brenda alot she was always jonny on the sspot when it felt like all was falling down around me.
Should you mail me back that would be great if not I fully understand I was a terrible terrible person this week and don't think I will be forgiven by many posters soon
Thanks and good luck in the fight towards the losers bench,
Wendy
Wendy, don't let this stuff get to you. Some people use it as a crutch and what they feel as real life. I don't put those people down because many of them cannot leave their home for health reasons or other. I myself was agoraphobic for over 20 yrs and fought very hard to push through that. With the help of Dr. Sonnanstine I made great strides. I stumbled and fell along the way. I picked myself up and started again over and over. I got involved with patients because it helped me get out. I understood the anxiety, prejudice and illnesses of being obese. I wanted to be there for them and I did and will be again should anyone else need me.
As LeeAnn stated (thanks for the kind words LeeAnn)..I do this strictly volunteer for several reasons. I never wanted anyone to feel I was connected to the hospital so that they could talk more openly if they were upset or distressed. It has worked very well. I am in constant contact with Dr. Sonnanstine patients because they felt abandoned and I am helping them in anyway I can to connect with him again should they choose to do so.
And yes I am in constant contact with him as we text msg. talk on the phone and even have lunch from time to time.
I also want you to know that you had nothing to do with whatever LeeAnn is speaking of in the last post. So don't worry about it. This happens very often as we see differnt people get very active on the board and some (to no fault of those active) feel left out if they post and no one
replies to them personally. An issue they need to deal with.
As soon as this thread stops and we all move on...Things will be very much back to normal. So just chill a couple days..ignore the thread as I will and things will be fine.
Let's all move on.
I did speak to Kit, I actually know of an incident where she was very hurt (in person) when attending a group function. I suppose that's where her passion comes from. I don't think she will be on here for awhile.
I also want to clarify something. I have a great deal of respect for Dr. Curry as a surgeon. I have known him almost as long as I have known Dr. Sonnanstine, ..I am also familiar with most of his staff. I feel he and I had a small misunderstanding awhile back that in reality had nothing to do with his own control of things or mine. I do believe that got out of hand as well and was not taken well on the board. Some of it was tease on my part but others did not see it that way.
He and I emailed each other after and worked it out. So again, I don't need help with that one..lol
you all take care...be there for each other and please..let's just move on!!
Brenda
As LeeAnn stated (thanks for the kind words LeeAnn)..I do this strictly volunteer for several reasons. I never wanted anyone to feel I was connected to the hospital so that they could talk more openly if they were upset or distressed. It has worked very well. I am in constant contact with Dr. Sonnanstine patients because they felt abandoned and I am helping them in anyway I can to connect with him again should they choose to do so.
And yes I am in constant contact with him as we text msg. talk on the phone and even have lunch from time to time.
I also want you to know that you had nothing to do with whatever LeeAnn is speaking of in the last post. So don't worry about it. This happens very often as we see differnt people get very active on the board and some (to no fault of those active) feel left out if they post and no one
replies to them personally. An issue they need to deal with.
As soon as this thread stops and we all move on...Things will be very much back to normal. So just chill a couple days..ignore the thread as I will and things will be fine.
Let's all move on.
I did speak to Kit, I actually know of an incident where she was very hurt (in person) when attending a group function. I suppose that's where her passion comes from. I don't think she will be on here for awhile.
I also want to clarify something. I have a great deal of respect for Dr. Curry as a surgeon. I have known him almost as long as I have known Dr. Sonnanstine, ..I am also familiar with most of his staff. I feel he and I had a small misunderstanding awhile back that in reality had nothing to do with his own control of things or mine. I do believe that got out of hand as well and was not taken well on the board. Some of it was tease on my part but others did not see it that way.
He and I emailed each other after and worked it out. So again, I don't need help with that one..lol
you all take care...be there for each other and please..let's just move on!!
Brenda
No..it was absolutely not at you! (the legal thing) It was comments made to me in a pm from Kit. I advised her she just should not relay that info to anyone else because it would open her up to a slander suit without her possible realizing it. Nothing more...nothing less. Alot of people do not realize that repeating some things can be like that. It was informational...thats all. I have popped off a couple things here and there that I could have phrased better, but never say anything I don't mean. That is just my personality.....IAMASWEETHEART44 (Lisa) says she puts her foot in her mouth, but she wears a small size so obviously her mouth is not as big as she thinks.
She is really an awesome gal and I deffinitely am glad to have become friends with her as well as alot of others on here! Hopefully we can maybe meet up and do the same. People may not like me..people may....but aren't we all that way. I enjoy hearing others opinions and points of views...sometimes it sheds light on my own and shows me I may not necessarily have had all the facts when I formed mine! I am definitely not perfect...
I am just going to continue being the person i am and try to welcome, support, and throw in my two cents whenever I see fit,. I am still hopeful that you will hang in here...and Stephanie and get to know us better! We have all talked about trying to get a get together over up and running so maybe we can all meet in person finally. AMY??????? Wanna be the hostess????? Or anyone else for that matter? Let us know......we would like to do this! In the meantime we will have to just converse and share on here.
She is really an awesome gal and I deffinitely am glad to have become friends with her as well as alot of others on here! Hopefully we can maybe meet up and do the same. People may not like me..people may....but aren't we all that way. I enjoy hearing others opinions and points of views...sometimes it sheds light on my own and shows me I may not necessarily have had all the facts when I formed mine! I am definitely not perfect...I am just going to continue being the person i am and try to welcome, support, and throw in my two cents whenever I see fit,. I am still hopeful that you will hang in here...and Stephanie and get to know us better! We have all talked about trying to get a get together over up and running so maybe we can all meet in person finally. AMY??????? Wanna be the hostess????? Or anyone else for that matter? Let us know......we would like to do this! In the meantime we will have to just converse and share on here.
I have to say something i was at the Ind board get together and I brought this up because I know not everyone can get along and some times things are said and they are taken the wrong way .
It happens on all the boards Ind included.
But we all come here for support and guidance in one form another,we have all been invited to the functions at Beccas and everywhere else its up to us to attend but we have been invited.
I love my surgeon(Dr.SONNASTINE) and i came to the Ky board because most of his patients are there and i knew we could share and help the newbies and yes i have made a few friends and a few dont like me but oh well cant have everything.I know that when i came on that it is up to me to jump in and post a reply (if i want).When i was in high school they had cliques and i wasnt part of them(to fat) but now 20-some years later these girls are my friends we all grew up and became mature and looked at things very diffrently now.
.But please dont leave hang in there as i said before i open my mouth and insert my foot alot we all do and you apologized so please hang around attended a function we have all been newbies and we dont want this fighting to scare them off.
So as i say to my boys when they are arguing cant we all be friends.Lets all hang in there and support each other.
It happens on all the boards Ind included.
But we all come here for support and guidance in one form another,we have all been invited to the functions at Beccas and everywhere else its up to us to attend but we have been invited.
I love my surgeon(Dr.SONNASTINE) and i came to the Ky board because most of his patients are there and i knew we could share and help the newbies and yes i have made a few friends and a few dont like me but oh well cant have everything.I know that when i came on that it is up to me to jump in and post a reply (if i want).When i was in high school they had cliques and i wasnt part of them(to fat) but now 20-some years later these girls are my friends we all grew up and became mature and looked at things very diffrently now.
.But please dont leave hang in there as i said before i open my mouth and insert my foot alot we all do and you apologized so please hang around attended a function we have all been newbies and we dont want this fighting to scare them off.
So as i say to my boys when they are arguing cant we all be friends.Lets all hang in there and support each other.
I know you, met your hubby and the boys ...I think you are a very sweet lady and your name fits you perfectly. I think we all just let things get to us. I also think that often times what is happening in our real life conveys itself unintentionally on here. I have a bad day then read something I don't like then I get offended. Any other time I might blow it off.
I don't want to see anyone leave here. I think we should start a whole new thread..whatta ya say?
let's have an introduction thread...I am not shy, I'll start!!
I don't want to see anyone leave here. I think we should start a whole new thread..whatta ya say?
let's have an introduction thread...I am not shy, I'll start!!
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