13 days away, getting nervous!!

Hey everyone! Well my surgery (rny) is in 13 days, and I am starting to get nervous, anxious, excited, scared, and all of that good stuff..
I am so anxious for the results, but since I got my owners manual, all I keep reading about are death and deadly blood clots.. I know that this seldom happens, but I have 3 kids under the age of 4 that need there mommy, yet on the other hand they need a happy, healthy mommy as well..
I can't wait to get this done, I just wish I could stop reading about all of this death crap! It freaks me out..
Anyway besides all of that, I am soooo ready to be a loser, and LOVE Dr. Sonnanstine! He is AMAZING!!
All of my bloodwork and ekgs, and xrays and ultrasounds and all of that "couldn't have looked any better" according to my internal med. dr, so I really am starting out super healthy considering I  suppose.
I know I am rambling, but does anyone have any advice for me? What should I take that they forget to tell you about to the hospital, how much do most people lose the first month, etc...
This board is awesome, and I will be posting lots more as I progress in this journey!
Thanks sooo much!

No useful advice since I am a bandster.

Just wanted to say Congratulations, Good luck and Speedy Healing!

I really understand what you're feeling about not wanting your kids to lose their mommy.  My husband died when my girls were 11 years old (barely) and 12 years old.  I thought about this surgery since then - my health was so poor and it just kept getting worse as I gained more weight.  Since my youngest daughter was turning 18 last December I decided it was worth the risk - I knew if I didn't have this surgery I would probably die from a heart attack or have to go into a nursing home because I couldn't breathe and could barely walk or stand.  The waiting several years allowed me to be sure I wanted to do this, but looking back I think of all the things I could have done with my girls and couldn't do because of my extreme morbid obesity. 

But we do what we do when we finally feel right about it.  I felt like the odds were on my side and if anything went wrong at least my girls were adults and could make it without me (even though they wouldn't want to and I wouldn't want them to).  It's a hard decision, but for me it was the right decision and I haven't regretted it one minute, even during the first several weeks when I had some pain.  The pain is minor and short term and well worth it.  I've lost 100 lbs since Dec 19,2008 and I can hardly believe the life changes it has made.
I wish you the best - keep posting and asking questions.  Did you get the vena cava filter inserted yet?  That is something I had done to help prevent deadly blood clots from traveling to vital organs.  I never had a blood clot at all - Dr. Shina required me to take daily shots of blood thinner for the first 10 days after leaving the hospital.  The shots were easy and painless and I had no problems with blood clots and I weighed 428 and am 54 years old.  Your chances should be even better than mine. 

If you have any other questions just ask - I'll try to help you with them!  (Oh - I lost 53 lbs the first month - way too much, but I believe a lot of it was fluids - most people don't lose nearly that much - Dr. Shina wasn't happy with that much weight loss and he put me on 6 meals a day for a little while - a week later I had only lost 2 more lbs and it's been more reasonable ever since, but still a good weight loss rate.  The heavier you are to begin with the faster it comes off initially - usually.  Also it depends on your exercise and age, etc.  A general average for women with RNY is 1/2 lb a day and for men about 1 lb a day.  It doesn't seem to come off on a daily basis though - it stabilizes and stays the same and then a week or two later a lot of weight comes off quickly - a series of plateaus and then weight loss.  It may be different for each person, but this is how it has worked for me.  

Sweetie
It si normal to be scared ,beleive me i was i tryed so many times to talk my self out of it as i was on the table being prepped for surgery i wanted to get up and run(at my size it was impossible to run).
But i was in a situation where if i didnt have the surgery i was gonna die anyway .
I have not regretted this surgery i have lost over 230 pounds since 2/18/08 (30 pounds from excess skin removal) and i did have complications but not from the surgery.
I will tell you this Dr.Sonnanstine di my surgery also and you are in the best hands he is the greatest and he will be beside you the whole way.
When someone says to me would you do this surgery over again heck yes i would it is the best thing i have ever done for myself and my family i miss out on so much with the boys and i wish i could have had the surgery sooner.
Everyone loses differently ,take chap stick forsure and panties .
You arent there very long to need much else,i do wish i would have took my mp3 player though.
Good luck sweetie and if i can help let me know and remember you are in excellent hands with Dr.Tom
It is a journey but a wonderful one..
Huggs

Just wanted to wish ya luck! I hear Dr S is very competent and compassionate. Talk to him about this stuff...he seems to want to make sure patients are thoroughly informed and secure with their surgery! A golden quality to say the least! Brenda also might be one to speak with since she was very helpful with alot of people's questions....Good luck and cannot wait to see your journey unveiled! Keep us posted!