OT:How to book for husbands? Cranky husbands???

I admit freely that I'm not the world's brightest person. I admit freely that I in no way understand the biggest majority of things that go on in this mixed up old world. And I totally have no friggin clue about what goes on in a man's mind at times. After a little over 8 yrs Adam can still throw me for a loop at times.  He is a good man, don't get me wrong, I'm just having a whinning spell. I do that occasionally.  He can be the meanest tempered, crabbiest butt there ever was. Man, I wish husbands came with a how to book on how to not tick them off by breathing, how to not make them made cause a 6 yr old acts like a 6 yr old. Guess what? This stupid van I bought with my car wreck settlement money (the stupid van he made me buy) is now broken.  It did run great. The doors were finally opening easier (since he oiled them), the heater and defroster up front did not work so he ran out to Autozone and bought 2 of those dash defroster things. They worked great. 2 weeks ago he decides to tear into my van. He's going to fix the heater. He had to replace a cv joint up front anyway and the brakes, lets not forget those. Ok, he got some sort of seal thing, tore into the van, had the whole inside torn apart. He got it back together yesterday. He test drove it, crowed about how good it did. Last night he decides he wants Dairy Queen, (yes, he's freakin nuts, its too dang cold for ice cream) so we head up to town in the van. We get up there, the oil light has stayed on the entire ride to town. We get to Dairy Queen and theres a knocking in the engine. Oh how wonderful is that? He was like, Oh Dad, do u remember the other day when we ran it a few mins without FREAKING OIL in it to see if the heater was working? We made it back home. He did something and the oil light is no longer on. But its still knocking. It could be a lifter he says, whatever the heck that is. Or it could be its just going to freakin blow up anytime. He says he's done working on it. To quote him its a piece of poo I never should have bought. Ok, he's the one that made me buy it. I wanted a Ford Windstar that was newer with less miles but no, this freakin Kia piece of junk was "better". It did run good until he got it back together. I mean, it had get up and go. Now its not going anywhere for a while. So this afternoon, he's in one of his I'm a butthole moods. Happens quite often. We all have those days I suppose. He's made because his budget doesn't allow for him to purchase a $3000 transmission for the freaking monster truck in the back yard that he paid almost $4k for that didn't run when he bought it.  This is my fault by the way. I made him, me physically made him, have his vasectomy reversed for $4k he wanted to put back into his huge gas eating piece of crap. Its my fault that the budget will not allow for $3000 for a new transmission for the monster he'll never drive. When he gets like this I try to ignore him alot cause the littlest crap can set him off to griping, moaning, yelling,  it just ain't worth it. I swear that man. Now he says he has no choice he's going to sell the monster piece of crap. "It's just not in the budget right now" Well, my goodness, the dang thing wasn't in the budget when he ran to Indianapolis and bought it. Another thing that chaps my khakis with this MAN is that he can have as many female friends at work as he wants. Thats fine. He thinks its ok to get online and look up free porn websites. I have never said much on these subjects cause I don't really give a rats rear end. I know he's not cheating. I don't think he's that stupid. What gets me is if I sit down and chat with a friend online (not u Mr Walker or u, Richard) its just any guy. I'm in the wrong. I'm obviously flirting around just by having a conversation. I may have been wild in my younger years but believe me, sex just ain't worth the fuss. I've never cheated on him and won't. Its just not in me to do that. No matter what I did in my wild younger years. Ed, today I was reminded of something Thomas once told me back in those wild and younger years, he told me to always screw around with married men so I didn't have to wash their underwear. Days like today I'm almost tempted to agree. Almost. Ok, that doesn't mean I'm a bad wife. Adam was a rude butt hole and I'm feeling sorry for myself. Something that I've perfected over the past 8 yrs. He left to go to work with a head ache and now I've got a huge one myself. So I think I'll take some tylenol, sit down on my still fluffy rump in the recyliner and CHILL out for the rest of the night. I just had to vent and whine cause I'm a woman and thats what I do. It'll be my turn to have a bad day soon and Adam can whine about me. For tonight though, I reserve the right to whine and pout all I want cause he ain't here to see it. Yes, I make loads of sense don't I? Ok, I'm done whining now. Hope u all have had a better afternoon than I have and if anyone ever runs onto one of those How to books for husbands, cranky husbands to be more exact, let me know. I could use one. At least to whup him upside the head every now and then. Hugs Ange

Ange I dont have a book. But i have a hubby and 3 sons i see my father and bro everyday and i have an explanation.. Male pms its the only thing that fits they act like buttheads for a few days then they are fine.. What do you think?

I think u r right lol.

I think men are simply overgrown children and when they want to have their little meltdowns they should be handled like the child they are (or any adult for that matter)!   They tend to approach the world from a ME perspective like a pre-schooler.  Granted, there are women out there that do the same! I'm sure you are like me and simply give your husband some space until he mellows out rather than to call them out over the issue at hand.   Most men won't apologize either.   I have the opposite problem myself.  My husband will say he's sorry simply to end the debate whether he sorry or not and whether he's guilty or not.  this drives me nuts!  Of course then he want's to snuggle up and get cozy and can't understand why I'm not interested.....and then of course he has another thing to be bugged about!

Stick to your guns and if he's being overly nice when he gets home....use it to your advantage!

Hi Angela.......................you will learn that they always say no one is happy till mom is happy. HMMMMM AT MY HOME NO ONE IS HAPPY TIL DADDY IS LOL.  We always have ups and downs, you know he loves you so much and he got the surgery for the love he has for you,wanting to be a wonderful mom again. And about the vehicles,THOSE ARE MATERIAL THINGS. You really do have a wonderful man, just deep down he might be feeling he has let you down. But just remember the lord never put anything upon us that we can't handle. So lift up you're spirits you know you are a strong person. I would suggest maybe a love makin day lol. Just you and him if possible. Thats a stress remover for me lol. Anways take care..                                                              Vickie R.

To heck with your man! What kind of Monster Truck does he have???? Becca