husband's worries
I don't have a surgery date yet, and my husband is very supportive of me having this done, but he fears that our relationship is going to change once I start losing weight. I keep telling him nothing is going to change. Has anybody else had to deal with these concerns? If so is there any advice to make him understand that he is stuck with me fat or skinny?
Stacey
Stacey,
From going to support meetings I found that there is a large divorce/seperation rate resulting from this surgery. I just had my surgery this week but I have been married for 24 yrs. I am 59 and he is 69 and he has told me that he will be able to deal with it. I hope it works out good for you and for me, LOL Seriously, my advice would be for you to reassure him everyday that you wont leave him after you get thin. It has to be hard on a man's ego. Afterall, he has been married to a woman whom is heavy which means she isnt being looked at by every man but will change after the weight loss.
As they say, it's a change for the rest of our lives.
Judy
well not to scare u from having the surgery because it will help your life no matter what-- mine did - ive lost 228lbs in 8 months so far BUT it has changed my life with my wife of 20 years--i feel so different now- i cant say this will happen to you because no one knows --just know that this is a problem and stuff