How do you deal with it??

Ok so we have the surgery... and our lives do a total 180 right. We have all sorts of things we deal with. Getting healthy is the best! The WOW moments are fantastic... for those of us that were heavy all our lives a lot of this stuff is something we have never experienced before.  So heres the question... I am below goal... way below goal. I have never in my life been so healthy. I still even over a year out havent figured out how to deal with the attention I get. People stare at me and its hard for me not to get offended because I dont know what they are staring for.... How do you guys deal with the attention both positive and negative?

I've run into this very thing. I deal with it depending on who it is giving the attention and how well I know them. For instance there is a lady in my town whom I see occasionally. She has asked me about the surgery. She is very heavy, however, everytime I see her she ALWAYS tells me that I need to stop losing that I am looking too small etc etc. In this situation, I always smile at her and nod and agree, and then go about my business. When I get positive attention I simply say thank you. I HAVE noticed I get more male attention. This always puts a smile on my face and brightens my day! Sometimes it IS hard though to deal with. There are days I see people out who I KNOW are going to  mention my weight loss, or want to talk about my surgery etc, and I am ashamed to say there have been times I have turned and went the other way before they could see me. Some days I simply do not want to discuss it. For the most part I just let the majority of it roll off me. I am curious to know how some of the others deal!

Well hell..I got attention (good and bad) before surgery, so it's not much different now. More good than bad, I like to think. Guys at work that normally wouldn't have given me the time of day have asked me out; then again, my "fat" friends barely talk to me anymore since so much of our world revolved around food. I'm not as far out as you; I still have 60 pounds to goal. I'd say just grin and bear it. You won't change what people think when it gets down to it. Be proud of yourself and how much better off you are now than pre-surgery. For those that want to look, stare, etc? Let'em. Just my two cents. Keep up the good work. ~Katrina