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hi all........well i am having a rough one these days. I am crying everytime i look in the mirror..........my boobs are so saggy, my belly look like a wrinkle elephant leg..why can't i just be happy that i have lost 115lbs.........im setting here at 127lbs and i feel fatter than ever.........i put on a size 4 pants which are my daughters and i was like oh my i look so fat........i dont even want hubby to touch me!!!!! plus everyone around me are saying dont loose anymore weight you look sickly.............i just cant enjoy what i have accomplished...................someone give me the way........i dont no what to do.......maybe im getting depressed...I cry everytime i look in the mirror.......who knows........I GUESS I NEED A THERIPIST...........SO ARE ANY OF YOU LIKE THIS!!!!! Thanks all...............vickie r.

A hundred and fifteen pounds is nothing to sneeze at; it's a great accomplishment. I think there must be something in the air, I've got quite a few friends that are down in the dumps. Maybe if you were able to get out and go to a park, something outdoors, it would help with your depression. Call a friend and see if they want to go for a ride. Do something so that you're not at home sitting on what's bothering you. I think we fat people have to realize that we will always be fat people, regardless of weight. It's a mental thing mostly. Try to remember how much better you feel than you did before the surgery and great weight loss. It can be an eye opener to remember that it was a lot worse before the surgery. I hope you get to feeling better soon-- Dee

115 lbs is one hell of an accomplishment girl! Congrats on the loss. I am only 3 1/2 mos out so I really cant completely relate... but maybe try to look at it this way. extra skin... or the extra fat? gimme extra skin any day.... you have come a long way and we all know its not easy.... maybe you are just having a bad week/month whatever.... I was told that if i was having a bad day to put on my pre op clothes... that seems to work for me..... Good luck hon

Vicki, I'm sorry to hear that you are down in the dumps! This is exactly what I am afraid of--that after the weight loss I will STILL be unhappy with the way I look. But, that's why they have plastic surgeons!! Get with your therapist and see if it is time to be looking into some kind of plastic surgery. And put your before and after pictures up on the mirrors you are looking in. I like what someone else said too -- try on those before surgery clothes. You have come a long way and achieved a major accomplishment!! Are you at your goal weight? If so, go see that therapist and find a solution that will make you feel better. You definitely do not need to be crying all of the time. Are you attending the support group meetings in your area? You can get alot of ideas from people that might be feeling like you are, and you may find your answer there. (I don't know exactly what you are seeing when you look in that mirror, but the picture you have posted is beautiful!!) Good luck! I will keep you in my prayers! Sharee