Identity Crisis...HELP!

Hi Amos Family! I am going through a weird time...I have lost 127 pounds in 6 1/2 months so that part is going well and I feel wonderful. However I am weirding out on the fact that so many people don't recognize me any more. I mean I literally avoid people who I recognize and that I haven't seen in a while because I know they won't know who I am. I feel like a real whiner, but it is a serious issue that I am having. I am also weary of the "new Rachel" comments. IT'S STILL ME FOLKS, only slimmer. Anyone else having an identity crisis? My bariatric coordinator (who had the surgery 2 1/2 years ago) told me that we will all go through some really weird mental crap eventually. She also said that we premenopausal women will at some point go through estrogen hell where we want to be left alone and are much less tolerant of things and people. Well sister, I think I am there now. My poor dear hubby must wonder what is up!! Please let me know if you can relate to any or all of these issues. I need some support. Thanks Much & God Bless, Rachel T.

Howdy Rachel.... yes am here for you hon.. been there done that.. it is very very weird but oh so wonderful, once we get past this stage of this whole thing.. Had some really rough spots to get thru too and support and daily contact is the best kind of help you can get and give.. Take one day at a time and don't avoid anyone.. you can stand tall and proud.. you've come a long way baby.. yahoo... Hubby threatened to turn me in for a "sane" model.. ha ha ha ha well he got stuck with me.. so now things are much much better and he is grateful he stuck by me.. tee hee hee hee the ups and downs are not fun but oh so rewarding in the long run.. You just take it easy and live for today.. I love going out and being incognito.. ha ha ha ha ha keep em guessing. I can look at folks and talk to them and they haven't a clue who I am.. but I know ALL about them.. love it love it.. Makes for some funny and strange times.. Catch ya later and do have a good day.. Keep in touch.. after all, that is what this board is for.. Hugs to you, Fran

Hi Rachel, No, I haven't been through the meoonopausal thing yet, Can't wait! LOL I get hurt when people DON"T see the loss. I have lost 68 pounds, but in the scheme of things, that is a mere drop in a very large bucket. For me is is monumental, so why doesn't it show! (because it IS a drop in a very large bucket. joan

Rachel, I know how you are feeling, It is really strange when you are talking to people and they don't have a clue who you are! My mother didn't even know me when she flew into Kansas a few months ago, she kept trying to look around me because I was walking right toward her. I finally said OK, so you don't know who I am but hug me anyway! She just yelled Oh My God!!! I have just tried to remember what a compliment it is that I have done such a good job on my weight loss that people don't recognize me. I don't like hearing that it's a new Brenda either, my husband says it a lot and that really makes me angry! I tell him I am the same and he says no, you're not jolly anymore! He teases me just because I let it bother me so I stopped letting it bother me and just go with it, no more of that teasing! What I really get tired of is people telling me I need to stop because I am losing too much weight! Oh well, there are worse things! I can remember people talking and whispering about me when I was heavy and being told to get off of a roller coaster because I could not get the seat belt fastened fast enough because of my weight....awful! I think Fran is right, we can only change our own attitude and using it to our advantage and for a bit of fun is the way to go!!! Besides, the look on people's faces when they finally figure out who I am is priceless!!! Have a great day and remember, if it takes our minds a while to catch up to all of our changes, imagine how hard it must be for those not actually in our skin! (and that's a lot of skin!!) God bless you all on your journey!