Clothing Exchange: TOMORROW

Stacy,

My first post was simply a reminder of the exchange..and for no one to come with causing trouble in mind. I did not mention any names or specifics. Michelle came forward and did that all on her own. I wasn't 'baiting' her. But..I have seen plenty of 'baits' on here from her like about seeing people at Holiday World and in Chicago. And just as I posted in a private forum..or to which you are/were privy to...I believed that she was trying to get a rise out of others and I also advised them to ignore her. This time, she repeated it one too many times for me to believe it was just to get a rise out of someone.

And her being unstable? I didn't make one statement about that on this board...YOU just did.

You stated we have a 'clique mentality' but yet suggest that we only allow others to fuctions by private invitation or on a private forum. We try to keep it open invitation. And you know...this is the first time that anyone have ever been told not to come to something. I would think that should say more about Michelle than any of the rest of us.

Sherri

Sherri the only way the police will be called is if someone else starts "crap" as I said I have no intentions of starting anything.
 It would be a shame if something as nice as the clothing exchange would have to be stopped because so someones juvinille actions. But since I am an adult I know how to handle things when I am not wanted. But that sure doesn't mean that I have to stay away from it. Stacy and others would be better off if they didn't get to involved with some of the women on here. I did and look where it got me. People telling falsehoods about me and you all know who I am talking about. Someone setting me up to look like a sent "nasty grams" to someone who I took to her first clothing exchange and bought stuff for her children for Christmas. And not to mention that my husband and I bought some food for a family that was having financial problem. We did all of this when we were also having financial problems. These were people who were on the board and I didn't broadcast it because I don't want or need a pat on the back! But if I did that type of stuff for these board members why on earth would I send "nasty grams" to Kim and Gail???? I didn't so it would be nice to not be accused of it  and to let this stuff go!!! I did say something about Witham Hospital that was meant as a joke but was not taken as such for which I am sorry. I am tired of being accused of things that I didn't do and things that I did that were a mistake. It has been months now and a few of you are still jumping me every chance you get. Some have even went on the over 50 board to do so. I think it is time we quit acting like a bunch of teenage girls and act like adults, don't you???
 I will see you at the clothing exchange tomorrow. I have alot of nice clothes that are too small for me that someone else maybe able to use. For Sherri and others who don't want me to come I will not be there long so I hope you can be adults for that short period of time. Michelle

Stacy, Look at it this way....
Why would a sane person come to events that she is clearly not welcome too! because she is a NUTBALL! Don't be surprise if she starts visiting you and calling you all hours of the night and shows up unannounced where you are. You will see.

I do not plan on getting close to Michelle, and based on what I have seen on this board, I don't plan on getting close to many others either.  I am a people watcher, and have noticed alot of yucky behavior in many on this board.  I have made connections with a few people, and have enjoyed that.

Stacy Walker

Michelle comes out of the woodwork anytime any of us plan any kind of get together.

If you notice, that is really the only time she posts on this board.

When someone buys into her poor, pitiful me, I'm being treated like an outcast routine, it feeds her flames like gasoline. 

The only "yucky" behavior I've noticed on this board is Michelle's.

Now if you feel that myself, Sherri, Shanna, or anyone else has exhibited "yucky" behavior, well....   all I can say is "How Nice".

I am not saying Michelle is right, and I am most defnitely NOT sticking up for anyone or taking sides.  I pointed out that I noticed clique type behavior and based on the number of PM's I got, others have seen this too.

Christie, you have never been anything but nice to me, but now sine I have stated my opinion/observation I feel like everyone here is turning on me.  I am not here to fight, I am here for support, advice, and guidance, but it seems like so many are here for drama.  I was hoping since most of the members here were older than my general social circle, that I would see maturity here..

Stacy Walker

Stacy, that is your perception.  You are entitled to the way you feel. 

You're right.  I have always been nice to you, and welcoming.  I don't see any of this as anyone turning on you.  I see it as folks trying to let you in on some of the history behind all of this so you don't get sucked in like some of us did.  (Myself included)

When you were feeling bad the other day and were about ready to give up, you got many encouraging replies.  We gave advice, support, and let you know we were (and are) all here for you.

You say clique like it is a negative thing.  I see it as a group of very welcoming friends.  After I joined, I took a huge step outside my comfort zone and came to a function so that I could meet these folks in person.  I was welcomed in with open arms. 

Now there is one person that apparently can't stand me as she has blocked me.  It bothered me a great deal at first.  However, since this person has not come to any functions except the conference in Chicago, I guess she doesn't want to make the effort to get to know me.  Her loss.

This is life.  We are all engaged in the war against obesity and waging that war in our own way - whether it be diet, or surgical.  Just like life, we can't always blow sunshine and rainbows at everyone.  Like families, we'll have disagreements and drama from time to time.  

Yeah, I'm definitely older than your social circle.  I'm probably older than your mother.  Mature?  Yep, most definitely.  I have a PhD from the School of Hard Knocks.

Mature enough to realize that this journey is not a bed of roses, it is not a perfect world, and we can't all get along all of the time.   

Mature enough to realize that if someone has a bad day, their posts may be snarky.

Mature enough to realize that someone has to take charge and be the organizer or we'd have no events. 


Mature enough to realize that some people are naturally good at organizing things, and that we have to step outside our comfort zone and get involved.

And having said all this, getting involved in person shows you who is worth getting to know, and who to most definitely stay clear of.

Very sorry you feel that way Stacy.  Nothing could be further from the truth.

I am going to try to make the drive down there, I would like to see all my friends and have a wondeful day of fellowship I pray that no trouble is made.  I agree with Sherri comment and I do not believe that you have baited anyone about anything.  These events are for fun and support, not bad mouthing or trouble. 

Tracy has also gave me 3 OH conference shirts they are 2x's and 3x's, these are all that she has left if anyone is interested in them PM me, and if I am able to make it down I will have them with me tomorrow, if not I will hold on to them for you.

Bigs Hugs to all

Peggy

BurnsInd. Code Ann. § 35-45-10-1. "Stalk" defined. (1993) As used in this chapter, "stalk" means a knowing or an intentional course of conduct involving repeated or continuing harassment of another person that would cause a reasonable person to feel terrorized, frightened, intimidated, or threatened and that actually causes the victim to feel terrorized, frightened, intimidated, or threatened. The term does not include statutorily or constitutionally protected activity. Burns Ind. Code Ann. § 35-45-10-2. "Harassment" defined. (1993)  As used in this chapter, "harassment" means conduct directed toward a victim that includes but is not limited to repeated or continuing impermissible contact that would cause a reasonable person to suffer emotional distress and that actually causes the victim to suffer emotional distress. Harassment does not include statutorily or constitutionally protected activity, such as lawful picketing pursuant to labor disputes or lawful employer-related activities pursuant to labor disputes.

Burns Ind. Code Ann. § 35-45-10-3. "Impermissible contact" defined. (1993) 
As used in this chapter, "impermissible contact" includes but is not limited to knowingly or intentionally following or pursuing the victim.