Upset

I am very upset......I havent fully gained back alot just 4 pounds and it upsets me very bad.....I think it is becasue I eat ALOT of starches!!!!!! Please help me....and head hunger is still KILLING me! Please help.

I deal with that too. There's a good book, "Life is Hard, Food is Easy". You might read that book. Try to get back on the program. You can do it.

Starches are sugar... start by limiting anything while.. white brea... aim for whole grain.. Whole grai or wheat pastas...or spinish.. even...   I agree with Linda.... try the book too.. you need to find out why you are eatting....try starting over... Since having my teeth pulled I have had to go back to basics... I cant chew... and believe me it is helping!!!

Good luck and dont beat yourself up!!

Linda Kay

I am a carb addict.  It only takes a small bite for it to spiral into something totally out of control.  Carbs put me in a self induced coma and I still eat them from time to time...now that is sick!! 

When I do this more than a couple days I begin to take whatever steps are necessary.   A support group, therapist, nutritionist, emotional eating class..absolutly whatever it takes to get myself under control.  We are human we are gonna do things we know we shouldn't do, just put some things into place for yourself now and in the future so when these time arise you have resources.  You have taken the first step by admitting you have a problem, now follow through on it and get back on track..........you can do this!!

Jeannie

We all deal with that head hunger and that is what made up obese in the first place. What I find that helps is when I start my day out with a large protien sup. I mix coffee with my protien sup and make it a double. I put some sweetner in it and powder and mix it with my hot coffee. Proti has a great hot chocolate protein powder that i usually use or I just use the whey stuff from Walmart. By starting with protien in the morning, it seems to charge my battery and curb my carb cravings. That and do some self talk about why you have gone down the WLS road to begin with... TO BE SUCCESSFUL, TO SUCCEED, TO BE HEALTHY!!  Don't forget these things and by all means drink, drink, drink water. I've showed a 4 lbs gain before only to remember that I wasn't getting my water in. Right now, I'm not getting my water in very much and I am not losing and some days I show a bit of a gain. I know what I need to do and just haven't done it yet. I am riding right above 200 right now and needing, wanting to get to onederland and for some reason I have been sabatoging myself this past week. I think sometimes I just need a break from concentrating on this much water and that much food and sometimes I revolt. I have been successful to get back up on that horse each time I fall off and that gives me the inspiration to keep doing it. I think that is what normal weight people must do, is find that balance of good/bad. You can get it back under control just tell youself what you really want. The carbs taste good for a little while and then they linger around on your body to hurt you. STOP THE INSANITY!!  LOL
Take care and you will be fine, just focus.

Head hunger is really difficult for all of us.  It takes practice, practice, and more practice to work on this.  But I'll tell you that from experience, you CAN do this.  The tiny steps you take now may not seem significant to you now but believe me, they become your tomorrow habits.  And you will love what you have accomplished.

You had WLS in October and you are only 20 yrs. old.  It may help to go to counseling to help you find out the emotional reasons why you turn to food----the wrong food.  When we experience this head hunger, talk TO yourself....outloud works good too.  Listen to the negative things you are saying to yourself and turn them around into something positive.  Positive self talk always works for me because we are with "ourselves" 24/7 and our own thoughts. 

It may help to start journaling about the positive things and small blessings in your life.  When you are experiencing head hunger, go to your journal and read what you have written.  Motivation is powerful and you need motivating, encouraging things to help you with this.  You said in your profile that the head hunger is the worst when you are NOT busy, so get busy.  Don't stay close to your kitchen or fridge.  Get outside or figure out what kinds of things you might like to do as hobbies.  Turn your head hunger into head knowledge!  Call a support person, go to support groups, read the book suggested to you.  Knowledge is power and the more encouraging and motivational things you learn now, will help you in the future.  Am I making any sense?

I'm in my 50's and had to go back a longggg time to figure out the reasons why I turned to food.  You have a jump start because you are only 20, so you can look back over the last 20 years and ask yourself what was I lacking in my life?  What made me off balance?  What factors in your life contributed to you turning to food?  Figure them out and own them!  Some issues may not have been your fault because you were only a child.  BUT now you are in charge of what you do with what you know.  You have the control over your choices so choose to make them good one's.  You can't change your past but you CAN change your today and your future. 

When I was your age, most all my decisions were made for me.  I wasn't given the choice to decide what is best for me.  I just did what I was told.  It may sound selfish and feel foreign to you at first, but make the decison to put YOU first.  I was 47 before I learned to do that.  I was always doing for other people and taking care of their needs.  Also I was doing whatever I could to be loved and accepted and approved of.  You can't make other people happy when you lose yourself in the process. I had to get it through my thick head that I can't change anybody else, but I can change me.  And I'm still working on this process. 

Dig your heels in and learn to say NO!  It can be done 1 day a time, 1 step at a time. Believe in what you can't yet see.  Believe in yourself.

Thank you all so much for all the words of wisdom! I needed it.....I have had alot fo stress.....my grandpa died four months ago and I still havent gotten over it.....I miss him so much everyday! I love him with all my heart and i miss him so much........I read about doing the protein drinks those have always made me sick.....Today I only ate one starch like the book says. I am excited about that! I have told myself that i need to do so...I am also getting back on track by going to support groups. Since my grandpa it has been super hard. When i eat the starches i eat like pretzels which have alot of salt which isnt good at all. and i am swollen every morning.....but i ordered my book tonight. I just want to make myself and everyone else proud of me. Thank you so much for all of your help! If any other advise let me know.