Support Person?

No Stacy my husband doesn't have a problem but, he also doesn't eat anything green! No veggies because he is a meat and potato person. I picked up on the fact that your husband must have an eating problem and although its hard on you especially if he is compulsive, it is hard for me because my husband sympathizes but can not relate to my eating issues. You can want to help him but he will have to do it himself. You can only take care of yourself and that is why I said perhaps as you are succeeding you can inspire him. You have a challenge ahead of you because I can't keep bad foods in my house anymore. If they are there I will be tempted. Is your husband going to have WLS?

My husband would love to have WLS, but he doesn't have insurance for it....

The issue has been that he is subconciously trying to sabotaging me, even though he really doesn't want to.  Things that have come up are that he doesn't want to be the "fat one", he doesn't think he should have to go without because I can't have something (we have strict house rules on food right now), etc. etc.   I wasn't fat before we got married, but I took on his eating habits, and look at where it got me....I am so frustrated, and angry about the whole thing.  I just want him to be there for me, and be happy for me instead of resentful adn jealous....

I have switched my records to Dr Mattar. He is wonderful. I know there are other patients of his from your area. I am willing to be your support person!  Come to support group too.Jana

Jana-

Thanks for the offer :)  Please feel free to private message me.

Also, where do you go to support group at?  I don't know if I can go all the way to Indy on a regular basis.

I too LOVE Dr Mattar....

Stacy Walker

I am so sorry for you. Do you have different insurances? It's a shame he can't get it. I guess one would be jealous and it would be hard to deal with. Just keep good communication open between you and focus on yourself. He has to take care of himself and you will only resent him more and more because of his resentment toward you with WLS.

We do have different insurance, because I am on disability so I have Medicare.  He has what is referred to as a catastophe plan through his employer and it sucks.  He would kill to be able to have surgery, but the money just isnt' there for it to happen for him.

I love him so much and I know how bad he wants to be healthy, but with all his psychological issues with food, I am not sure he would be a good candidate anyway....

Stacy Walker

My hubby isnt overweight but does like his icecream every night before he goes to bed... He eats differently than I do.. but I love my RNY because I just cant eat the way I used to  (thanks God).

My hubby basicly eats the same as he did but because I prepare it differntly and cook a little different foods his cholesterol (sp) has gone from over 200 to 109!!! He has lost weight and hasnt changed his habits very much!!  It has made him healthier without him being denied his icecream every night...

I on the other hand get ill with over 2 teaspoons of icecream...can only eat 2 cookies without getting sick and really have to shy away from fried foods because that is what sends me to the bathroom!!!

If you really want this you two will find a way to get it done.,. you will be a great support to him and a great motivation for him to start eatting healthier.. dont underestimate yourself.

Linda Kay

Stacy- Clarian's support groups meet the first and third Tuesdays of the month from 6-730.  I highly recommend them.  Ive attended since I was a preop.  Hope  you have luck finding a support person.  I can happily be reached via cell phone text if you like that route!  And I am a patient of Dr. Mattar as well, double bonus!

Sabrena-

Feel free to send me your number privately:)  I do appreciate your response as well.  I haven't wanted to go to the Clarian meetings because of the drive, but I think I am going to try and go to at least one a month.  I think it will help me to get more motivated.

BTW, I saw your ticker....you  are so close to goal, WAY TO GO!!

StacY Walker

Thanks!  Yes if you choose one meeting to go to I always liked the 2nd meeting of  the month the best.  (3rd Tuesday of the month).  I am gonna PM you my number.  I am thrilled with my progress and I am only 7 wks post op so I am hoping to get down to goal within just a few months.  I am -26 pounds since surgery day.  Obviously I started surgery as a lightweight!

Sabrena