Is it wrong...?

Is it wrong that I don't want to tell anyone that I am having surgery?  I really don't want to hear all the "advice" about my decision.  I know eventually they will know, but I want this to be private.  Then that makes the analytical side of my brain start working.  Hiding is always an issue.  I don't want anyone to know my weight, or know what I eat, etc.  So is this just perpetuating negative behavior?   

Having surgery is a very personal decision, there is nothing wrong with keeping it private.  There are lots of people in the world willing to give us unsolicited advise about a friend of their great aunt Sally who died from having weight loss surgery back in 1988.  It was my decision not to share my upcoming surgery with anyone either.  My mom, husband, kids, and sister knew that's about it.  Before surgery my mom told my grandma, who it turns out has been my biggest supporter.  After surgery I tell anyone who is curious because its too late for advise about Aunt Sally's friend, who may or may not even exist.  I wasn't working before surgery so I didn't have to worry about my co workers.

I have noticed since having surgery how much more common it is for people around me to have had wls.  I have two neighbors and three coworkers who have had wls.

Jeannie

I didn't tell anyone until the week of my surgery. My boss knew I was having surgery but not what type. I didn't even tell my family until the monday before my wednesday surgery, because I had to make plans to get there and back. But I just didn't want anyone trying to talk me out of it.

Good Luck!!

Sherry, it is your personal choice on whether you tell anyone or not.  I personally chose to "Tell the World" and I was very surprised of the support I found with my co-workers and my family. My theory about wls was, "I can overcome anything that happens in surgery except one thing......death."  Everything else is all something that I can deal with in one way or another. With my outlook on wls, my family and co-workers accepted the challenge with me, and stood behind me 100%.
Good luck in your process, and in which ever way you choose to announce to the world that you are going to have wls.

Hey Sherry
I decided not to tell everyone...just a select few...family and VERY close friends... about a handful of ppl knew what I was planning...
however...somehow my boss found out and gave me tons of crap about taking the time off for WLS..
sooooooooo
i still will NOT come out and tell my boss from my own lips...

like everyone else said...its up to the individual as if they wanna tell or not...

I told everyone I could tell. Then the closer to the date the more annoyed I started becoming because of comments I would get. IE, You don't need surgery etc. etc. Now people ask me I how I lost it and I always break it up to presurgery weight loss and then Surgery weight loss and then the total from highest. So they know that I was 300 pounds at one time and did need this surgery.

I didnt tell my inlaws because I didnt want them talking behind my back...Surprised the heck out of them the first Christmas and I went from a  size 32 to an 18!!! It was like What the heck???

My closest sisters knew...a few of my friends.. but I kept it from alot of people.. I got new friends on here and my surgery date buddies Peggy and Julie to talk to about it. this place gives us alot of choices..

Linda Kay

Thank you ladies.  I went through IVF with my son and I told everyone at the time.  I regretted that decision later.  Not because I was ashamed, but more because I felt like everyone needed an explanation and then needed to give me 50 ways to do it right.  I don't want to hear that I just need to stop eating.  If I could have I would have done that a long time ago.  I can always lose for a while and then the age old story happens and I gain it all back and a few of their friend.  I appreciate all of you sharing your own experience in this area.  It really helps.

We know... we have alllll been there... If we could just stop eatting we wouldnt even need a support group... buth thank God we do... because life is not easy and it is even harder without a friend.

Linda Kay